I am a horrible housewife! I hate to clean, I procrastinate, I don't have high expectations. I don't want to be this way but I am. I have one thing I have gotten better about - dishes - we don't have a dishwasher either. My routine I have established is after breakfast, my daughter usually plays by herself so I do all the dishes, clean the counter and stove top, sweep the floor - I am forced to do that b/c she throws food on the floor, I hate stepping on wet fruit and veggies!
Then, do whatever we are doing for the day, while cooking dinner, we NEVER eat out, it is way to expensive and really not very healthy - I do dishes while it is cooking, this also prevents any chance of food burning. Some nights though, my daughter is an attention hound so I can't accomplish this, so they will just have to be there for the morning.
I have no suggestions for washing clothes, I cloth diaper and I am forced to wash those daily, my supply isn't so high that I can slack off on that, but this hurts us for clothes b/c it seems that it takes most of the day to get a load of dipes done, I prewash, then a couple hours later I will wash, God forbid I forgot to clean off a poopy diaper, then I have to start all over b/c there will be chunks of food (spinache, kale, tomatoe) on everything.
But I'm thinking that the post-it note idea would be good.