I've been back at work FT for two months now after being on leave with dd#2. The first month was HORRIBLE...my group was going through a reorg, so my responsibilities changed, I had a new boss, who was in the middle of selling a house out of state, so he was telecommuting for a month, and no one in the group seemed to know very much about what was going on. So not only did I have to be away from my baby, but I had to sit on my hands all day. It's gotten better--the job I do have is less demanding than before I went on leave, and the work is actually something I am more or less interested in, and can learn from. Best part is I am across the street from the day care center, so I can go nurse the baby every day at lunch. Also, the pumping facilities are great! So I would be giving up a lot if I changed jobs.
My heart is not in what I do, anymore, but we can't afford for me to stay home, and I'm not entirely sure that I would want to 24x7. As HollyBearsMom said, sometimes I feel like I am failing both at home and at work, but other days it works out okay. I just try to look for the other days.
On the subject of woman bosses, I've been about 50% lucky--my last direct boss was a single woman, who was really terrific. She was genuinely happy for me when I told her I was pg. On the other hand, when I told her boss, my vp, who is married with a grown daughter, that I was pg, her comment was "oh, and I take it this is good news?" I've never forgotten that comment, and have never entirely trusted this woman since then.
My heart is not in what I do, anymore, but we can't afford for me to stay home, and I'm not entirely sure that I would want to 24x7. As HollyBearsMom said, sometimes I feel like I am failing both at home and at work, but other days it works out okay. I just try to look for the other days.
On the subject of woman bosses, I've been about 50% lucky--my last direct boss was a single woman, who was really terrific. She was genuinely happy for me when I told her I was pg. On the other hand, when I told her boss, my vp, who is married with a grown daughter, that I was pg, her comment was "oh, and I take it this is good news?" I've never forgotten that comment, and have never entirely trusted this woman since then.
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