First, if you have a concern, you should go back to your doctor, like, today...or it'll heal however it's gonna heal, and that will be that, unless you want it to be cut open again and THEN stitched, which I think is just WRONG. Remember, you're the consumor, be very firm that you are concerned and you NEED the doctor to look at it, right away. Or, you can not worry about it, trust your body to heal the way that it should (birth is, after all, a very natural thing for your body to recover from), and mention that your doctor could have WARNED you about the tear and that it would look different until it healed. Second, I dunno, we probably had sex again at around four weeks w/ the second one. The first one w/the cut took almost eight weeks for it to heal enough to even think about sex. Yes, sex is enjoyable. Even better, if I do say so, although it probably has nothing to do with the tear. I think that the birth experience along with raising our babies (and all the work, joy, sleeplessness, getting pooped and puked on, etc.), and doing the WORK that is involved in keeping a good marriage going is probably what has made sex even better. My husband says that it is DIFFERENT(physically), but not better or worse...just different. I don't really notice a difference, physically, to be honest. Third, as far as I can tell, mine has healed to look totally normal again. But, really, who cares what it looks like if it hasn't (I don't as long as it WORKS, and it does!)? Hope that helps.