Problems with EC...15 month old
I have browsed
numerous 'Diaper-Free' links looking for answers to my questions but
haven't found them. I have read Ingrid Bauer's book.
I started EC with my son (our only) around 6 months old. He did great.
We always caught the pees/poops after naps and gradually began to
catch about 75% of them during the day. I didn't try EC during
sleptimes...wanted to feel confident in catching them during the day
first. At first, I held him over the potty/sink, and he did fine.
Around 10 months, he would not be held, but began to use the Bjorn
potty. Sometime between 12 months and now (15 months), he began to
stiffen/arch more and more when placed on the potty. We began to catch
fewer pees and poops, and now, he won't sit on it at all. I haven't
caught one pee/poop in a week, and he walks around naked most days...
He just pees on the floor. He'll often run to a place that's out of
We never did signaling/signing, but he would respond to our sss/grunt
with like sounds (sometimes) when he was going. I can read his signals
and know when he is about to go, but I can't get him to then go to the
potty. The only 'sign' I've gotten is when he throws his Bjorn potty.
Sometimes that means he needs to go! But now, I can't even get him to
sit on it then.
He is also at a defiant stage; often testing his limits. He likes to
run out into the street, scratch at my face, and throw things in the
dog's bowl just after I've told him 'No' about these things. He laughs
and thinks its funny.
Should we leave the potty alone completely? We use disposables, but I
am playing with the baby G diapers and using cloth sometimes at home.
I didn't plan on cloth, so all I have are the pre-folds that I put in
baby G pants.
I fear we may have given him a negative potty experience somewhere
along the line. We are always asking if he needs to go potty. Perhaps
we should stop? Today I had him in his baby pool diaperless, and all
of a sudden a huge poop squirted out. I screamed becuase I was just
totally shocked, and he started crying! Oh, I wish I could undo that
now. I held him gently and got us out of the pool, trying to be gentle
and loving, hoping to undo scaring him.
I don't want to give up completely, but what would you recommend?