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post #181 of 281
Another really late starter newbie here. DD2 is 15m old, and I'm so ready to do this now. I toyed with EC with DD1, then was definitely going to EC with DD2. She had health issues though, and it was only recently that I felt I could actually handle doing something else. It just hit me this week and I'm so ready to move on to the next level, so today I drug out our little potty and am going to start putting her on it.
post #182 of 281
So today I'm writing down when she pees and poops, we caught one pee already! Our house has lots of carpet so instead of letting her run around nakid, I'm putting in her training undies. They are easier for me to pull one on then to track her down and snappi a prefold on her. DD2 has scared of the potty, she doesn't want to sit on it, she doesn't want me to hold her over it, I even tried sitting on the toilet and then sitting her in front of me, which is how my mom swears she PL all of us by 18m. Anyway, she just woke up from a nap so I knew she had to pee, so I took her into the kitchen, stood her in the sink for a minute and turned on the water, she peed 30 seconds later.
post #183 of 281
Wow! I can't believe there are so many late starters. I am getting ready to start with my dd. Her first birthday is next month. I have tried the toilet once with no luck, but haven't put forth much of an effort yet. We've had a lot of diaper-free time lately, but I haven't noticed signs...I don't think. We'll see how it goes.
post #184 of 281
Hi everyone,

I wanted to add a few more links that I didn't see in a long list of links posted earlier in this thread:
www.white-boucke.com/reviews/latestarters.html
www.TimL.com/ipt

-- just now started back and it is like we had never stopped! We quit while I was working with my older child to get her to use the potty. I figured it was a fluke back then until I started him back up recently. It seems like somehow he remembered how to go on the toilet. He is almost 15 months now --

I've heard that many children do remember if you take a break and many (but not all) get back on track fairly quickly. Awesome that you are experiencing this.

-- He goes in the potty about 5 times a day, but I figure that's a good start. --

That sounds like a good start all right!

-- My husband thinks I'm crazy --

He'll change his mind at some point.

-- I still haven't convinced my husband of how easy it is! --

Try to get him to potty your little one. He might be amazed and have a change of heart.

Laurie
post #185 of 281
ok taylor is 13 months old and well won't tell me anything. she doesn't talk much. she is cloth diped and well i started putting her on the potty every ten mins today from time of wake up and she won't do nothing she will pee when she gets off right in the floor next to the potty. i wait and wait and she holds it you can tell she is. what do i do?
post #186 of 281
I'm so happy to find this thread! I just started EC with my DS yesterday after meeting a wonderful mom that I met here at MotheringDotCommune. I had thought about going Diaper-Free before Croix arrived, but was put in my place by my mother and MIL. I regret listening and for not following my early intuition.

Just connecting with someone who makes EC part of their life made it seem possible. It's was way easier than I thought, I just wished I started sooner.

We got home around 3 pm from our swimming lesson and I let my DS roam without a diaper. After two pees on the floor we quickly got the hang of it. I started noticing signals that our DS was giving us since birth but we hadn't really recognized them until we looked for them. That first night resulted in us catching 3 poops and 2 pees. We were so impressed!

I am looking forward to being able to let him nap without a diaper. Baby steps.

Today, day 2, we were pretty busy. Out and about with no real time to EC. We switched to our normal routine of disposables while out and cloth at home and didn't go near the potty today. We're going to start up again tomorrow. I think it's best for us if it's done without stress if we regress a little here and there.

We'll try to introduce signing ('t' for toilet) and the cueing sound together. Meeting with my new EC friend today helped tremendously! Great tips.

Not only was this easy, it was a great way to bond with our DS in a positive way. And to think what we're doing for the environment. There are only winners with EC. Way to go everyone! Keep it up.
post #187 of 281

Let me introduce myself

Decided to finally jump in to this community, kinda like I finally jumped into ECing You know I swore to my single friends that I would not be a mama that talked about my DD's 'poos'. Well darn it, I can't stop talking about it!! Ha ha! Yippee for this support thread.

DD is now 10 months and we have been ECing part-time for the past two months. It was actually my doctor that told me about EC at DD's 1 week appointment but I wasn't ready. Now, I wish I had started earlier, but bygones.

We started at 8 months because DD really started to resist diaper changes, specifically putting them back on. Obviously, right!? So I decided to try EC. And wow these first two months have been a fascinating learning experience. I have no expectations so this is just an easygoing, natural journey for both of us. (My poor DC #2 when/if they come along!)

Anyway, not sure if I should post my questions about EC here or in the larger EC community. I am sure you will all gently redirect me if necessary First question. Where does one order 'train'ing pants/undies for a 10 month old?

Looking forward to learning more for this group!
WasabiMama
post #188 of 281
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Originally Posted by WasabiMama View Post
You know I swore to my single friends that I would not be a mama that talked about my DD's 'poos'.

It was actually my doctor that told me about EC at DD's 1 week appointment but I wasn't ready. Now, I wish I had started earlier, but bygones.
Way to go WasabMama! Like you I never would have imagined how much joy catching a pee or a poo could be for me. LOL

I'm so impressed that your doctor actually suggested it. That is amazing! Please encourage him/her to continue to do so with new mothers.

theecstore.com carries several brands of tiny undies and even ones from Japan for those seriously small bottoms. I just went to local childrens stores and purchased toddler underpants for our DS, but his chunky thighs were too big for some brands.

Welcome to the club!
post #189 of 281
Thanks URwhatU8! So happy to be here! I know, I really lucked out with my doctor. Indeed, when I first meet her I didn't know about her natural philosophy and it wasn't until I was finished my 1st trimester that she told me she didn't do epidurals! WOW, I hadn't even made up my mind about the epi! LOL! It was a beautiful birth!

Thanks for the link! I am going to check them out now. Thank goodness they have small ones, DD is in the teeny tiny club.
post #190 of 281
My dh and I have been ECing our 8m ds for about a week now. My husband and his sister were ECed starting at this age so it's only seemed natural for our family. We've had great success catching a half dozen times a day! I've figured out what that fussy I'm not hungry, bored, or tired cry is for. I'm still just a little shocked every time we catch one in the toilet since this is a new concept to me (I always thought kids had to be walking to be using the toilet).
post #191 of 281
Hey! I just started ec'ing my ds this weekend, kind of by accident. I set him on my dd's potty seat while we were waiting for the bath to fill, and he pooped! Since this seemed to be soo much easier for him than to go in his dipe I have been trying to catch his #2 whenever I see the signs... but how do you know for pee? And my DS is a chunky monkey, how do you aim and hold onto him??
post #192 of 281

So confused...Can anyone help????

Hello everyone. A friend of mine told me about this website, so I thought i would check it out. i like what i have seen so far. I have a 9mo daughter. I started to EC with her when she was about 4mo. People told me I was crazy and I was trying to make her grow up too fast. All kinds of things. So, needless to say...I quit. Well, about a week ago, I decided to give it another try. Within the first week, she was pooing in the potty. Yet, she rarely, RARELY goes pee in it. She gives no sign. The only thing she does is stops whatever she is doing, starts to pee and then resumes her activity while finishing. So, when I see her stop, it is already too late because she has begun. I will still take her to the potty and put her on and make a "pssssss" sound. Yet, she does not have to go pee anymore. Then there are the times, after I put her on the potty, I will take her in on her changing table, to clean her or what have you. SHE PEES RIGHT THERE!! I have no idea what to do. I think about waiting till she is old enough to understand, then I think ...no. It is like 9 out of 10 tries, it is a no hitter. Is she too little, just not ready? I NEED HELP...I am about to just give up. I am tired of all the messes and I am beginning to lose hope that this could work for us.



Plllllleeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaassssssssssssseeeeee eeeeee....can someone help?
post #193 of 281
Hey scrappin1980,
I just started too, but my ds give a little whine and stops playing when he needs to pee now (after only a week) What I so is take him every half hour or so if he hasn't given me a signal, and sometimes he will sometimes he wont. But I have a little stool in the bathroom that I sit on and take his diper off (if not poopy) so I dont have to go from changing table to BR and waste time... But he pees all the time so his diaper is almost always aleast a little wet.
Hope that helps.
Kami
post #194 of 281
Subbing! Super late starter here, but DS it pretty much out of diapers during the week now. He's 21 months. I catch like 80% of his pees, in our pee pee bowl. I can just bring the bowl to him and he will try to produce something for me! So cute!
post #195 of 281
Hi, I just wanted to introduce myself. We're pretty late starters here. My dd is 14mos so we are kind of doing EC, kind of doing early potty learning. I just read Diaper Free Before Three which isn't really a book on EC, it's more mainstream and is written for parents of babies 6mo and up, but it talks about EC some and also talks about how 100 years ago most babies were trained to use the toilet in their first two years of life and how the late training we do now is unhealthy and abnormal. Any way it has inspired me to start giving my girl some pottytunities. We actually tried to do EC when she was younger, but I got frustrated with all the misses and decided to stop. But this time I'm feeling more committed. I'm trying to offer her the potty whenever she wakes up, before leaving the house, before going to sleep and all that. I also am leaving her bare bum or in panties as much as possible whenever we are at home. However I'm not having a lot of success. In the last two days I've only made one catch. My little girl doesn't seem to have a pattern that I can tell yet, so timing hasn't worked. She is very mobile and though she happily will sit on the potty for a couple seconds she wants to get up right away. She does seem to be more aware of herself peeing though, but I haven't noticed any definite signals. My husband is getting frustrated with all the pee that's ending up on the floor. Should I just expect it to take longer to get the hang of it because we started late? Maybe I am just not observant enough for EC. How can I help her to pee when on the potty (we're using a babybjorn little potty)? Often she pees soon after she gets off and i don't know if she's holding it or what. Anyway any advice or encouragement would be very much appreciated. Thanks
post #196 of 281
Hi there,

This all sounds common for starting with a busy toddler, so don't worry.

Many toddlers don't like to sit on the potty at first. Try different tactics such as moving the potty to different locations/rooms or letting her read a special book while on the potty. She might like the whole bathroom ritual of emptying the potty, flushing, washing hands.

Many toddlers "hold it" while on the potty, then go almost as soon as they get off. It takes a while to learn the reverse.

When dh is around (or any time you are feeling overwhelmed), you might want to try using training pants or even diapers in between potty visits to avoid creating stress in the household. This won't confuse her. It's very important to have a relaxed atmosphere with respect to elimination issues.

With our first two, we didn't know about IPT/EC and didn't start until 15 months and 18 months. It took them quite a while to catch on, so I've been through what you are experiencing. As with everything, some kids catch on faster than others. It takes patience but things will start to click with her.

There are loads of things you can try. My article for late-starters mentions several tactics www.white-boucke.com/reviews/latestarters.html plus there are several mentioned in the threads here, and the new 2008 edition of Infant Potty Training has even more (plus beautiful color photos) www.white-boucke.com/IPTstuff.html

Best wishes,

Laurie


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though she happily will sit on the potty for a couple seconds she wants to get up right away. She does seem to be more aware of herself peeing though, but I haven't noticed any definite signals. My husband is getting frustrated with all the pee that's ending up on the floor. Should I just expect it to take longer to get the hang of it because we started late? Maybe I am just not observant enough for EC. How can I help her to pee when on the potty (we're using a babybjorn little potty)? Often she pees soon after she gets off and i don't know if she's holding it or what. Anyway any advice or encouragement would be very much appreciated. Thanks
post #197 of 281

Need help as well...

I got my DD to successfully use the potty by teaching her the sign for potty. Lately, we've started having poopy accidents though and I'm not sure if its because of me not paying enough attention to her or what. When it has happened, she's been kind enough to scream as loud as she possibly can until she gets our attention and is cleaned up and changed. She is barely nine months so I am wondering if anyone else ere has some clever ideas on how to better communicate with the LOs on when they need to go. I can't always guarantee to keep my eyes open for potty
post #198 of 281

So excited!

I found out about EC a couple of weeks ago and decided to try putting my 9 month old on the potty just for poops (he has a verrry obvious pooping face). I caught all of his poops for 2 days. We went on vacation for a week; we didn't do any ECing then.
I started up ECing full time 3 days ago. I was surprised to find out how predictable his pees are. Since we started ECing we've only missed 3 pees and no poops! Dry all through naps and night time too! I was absolutely amazed when DS stood up in the bath today and started saying pahpah pahpah, I put him on the potty and he peed right away! I don't mean to brag but I was so skeptical before starting, I thought this might give hope to other moms thinking about late start EC.

I do have some questions though.
Is it ok to pick DS up mid-pee and carry him to the potty? I did this for one missed pee and he seemed to be fine with it.

How many times does the average 9 month old pee (my guy pees about 8-10 times poops 1 or 2)? weird one I know

The big one! How do you explain EC to friends and family? I've already told my mom. She thinks I'm "pushing DS too early" I tried to explain to her that I am not potty training him but she doesn't seem to get it.
I'm really worried about my best friend finding out (she will tomorrow). She is potty training he 2 1/2 yr old right now. I want her to know that I'm not trying to one-up her, just making a different choice for my family. I don't want to minimize the success she's finally had with her daughter, but I don't want anyone's disapproval to persuade me to stop doing something that's good for my son!
I stopped BF at two months because my whole family (ecept DH) refused to be in the same room as us while nursing. I was isolated and shamed, but I won't let that happen again with any of my parenting decisions!
post #199 of 281
Another late starter here too. I did quite a bit of EC with DS when he was smaller (4-7ish months), and we did really well. He was getting very good at holding it, especially when we were out and I could potty him pretty much anywhere. I have been extremely lax about it for a few months, and even gave in to disposables. :

I dug out some cloth fitteds tonight and put him in one and brought his BBLP downstairs to have available. As soon as I put it down, DS grabbed it and started to cry his "I want it" cry. I took his dipe off, put him on, gave him our old signal, and he went! I am in utter shock!

I am going to try it out this coming weekend and see how he does. I figured I would offer every hour or two throughout the day and keep him coverless otherwise. Hopefully we can get back on the wagon!
post #200 of 281
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brought his BBLP downstairs to have available. As soon as I put it down, DS grabbed it and started to cry his "I want it" cry. I took his dipe off, put him on, gave him our old signal, and he went! I am in utter shock!

I am going to try it out this coming weekend and see how he does.
Kim,

That is good news all right! Thanks very much for sharing this and please do let us know how things go in the next days.

Laurie
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