Who have you told?

[Still_Snarky]

I called my mom immediately after I tested +. My dad guessed when he saw me (he did that last time too!) We told one friend who is expecting also but that's it. We haven't decided when to tell everyone else yet.

Who have you told? How long are you waiting to tell everyone?

[paisley]

We've told Dh's parents and brother, my mom, my sister and a handful of friends. I have been trying to tell my dad and stepmom for over a week now but they aren't cooperating. I sent them an email with a picture of ds wearing his new "I'm a big brother" shirt but apparently they don't check their email very often. I think we'll call him this weekend if we haven't heard form them by then.

Everyone else, I'm thinking Thanksgiving or Christmas. We go to Dh's Aunt & Uncle's for TG where they have the "I'm thankful..." tradition. Everyone writes what they are thankful for on a piece of paper and puts in a hat. We draw them and read them aloud at the table and try to guess who wrote what. Mine is going to say that I'm thankful for the 4th of July (my EDD). I can't wait to see who catches on first!

[~pi]

Originally Posted by BooBerryParker

Who have you told? How long are you waiting to tell everyone?

We told my sister. And we finally told our housemate tonight because he was getting a little suspicious. This morning I tried to have a bowl of cereal and couldn't manage it, so I dumped it down the toilet. It turns out Cheerios float.

We are waiting to tell most people, including our parents, until Christmas when we can tell them in person. We may tell my university girlfriends before then because we are spending the weekend with the three of them and their partners in a couple of weeks. I don't normally drink much, but they will notice if I'm not drinking at all, and I'd rather have the fun of surprising them than have them guess.

[jinkel]

Originally Posted by ~pi

This morning I tried to have a bowl of cereal and couldn't manage it, so I dumped it down the toilet. It turns out Cheerios float.

Too funny!


After I saw the heart beating on the sesame seed yesterday, I told all our family. Since we live across the world, I email photos of our son weekly. I slipped a photo of the digital pregnancy test showing "pregnant" into the group of attached photos...

[MacKinnon]

I've told a handful of my close girlfriends and that's it. I want to wait until Christmas or until I have a job to tell our families. I just lost my job and I know that our families will be very concerned about how we are going to make it financially w/the new baby. I don't really want to deal with the negativity, KWIM? I was thinking of something to wrap up and give them as a gift. Plus SIL and BIL are trying for their first and I don't want to steal their thunder and announce before them.

[PrettyBird]

We told our families. And I told a few of my friends. I don't want it being passed around at work yet. I know I am supposed to wait until I hear the heart beat but this is so exciting for me there is no way I would be able to hold it in when we visit my family for Thanksgiving!

PS. How early can you hear the heart beat? I am arranging my first appointment today.

[lotus.blossom]

Everybody. Seriously, I think we went a little bit overboard!!
I have a lot of respect for those of you who are waiting till the holidays!

PrettyBird, I have my first appt at 8 weeks and I think they will be looking for the heartbeat!

[mimi_n_tre]

I really want to wait until January or so, due to reasons in the past. I can't wait to tell everyone though....

[sewaneecook]

We've told immediate family (but I have 5 bros/sis and 3 in-laws, and 5 neices and nephews, so that isn't a small number!). We'll tell extended fam at Thanksgiving and Christmas. My first m/w appt is Friday, and I'll tell my 3 best friends after that (they knew we were TTC).

[HaveWool~Will Felt]

Hmmm....as many of you know our last baby died 6 hours after she was born at 37 weeks....so for us...we really needed to surround ourselves with support.
So we have shared our great news with our parents, our children and super close friends.

SO far aso good!!!

[~pi]

Originally Posted by ilovemyavery

I just lost my job and I know that our families will be very concerned about how we are going to make it financially w/the new baby. I don't really want to deal with the negativity, KWIM?

Carrie, I'm so sorry about your job.

We're in a similar boat - DH's contract was supposed to be turned into a permanent position and at the last minute HR decided that it would have increased head count too much. I wouldn't have told too many people this early anyway, but that is definitely an additional incentive to keep it to ourselves until we can feel less like impulsive, irresponsible people for planning a pregnancy based on a probable job rather than a definite one.

[fenwickmama]

we've told one friend IRL and that's it. we are holding off for a bit to get used to the idea before telling family...and i can't deal w/any negative comments right now about how to handle 2 babes all of a sudden...

[luckymama]

i've told my sis & one bro. the rest of my family & ILs will wait until christmas if i can ... and then when i see them, they'll know. my son's babysitter figured it out, because i've been so sick. i'm waiting to tell anyone else at all until i see a heartbeat. with my m/c, even though we saw the heartbeat, we realized shortly thereafter that my little bean probably wasn't going to make it, so i only told people that i would tell if that happened again: sis, bro, ttc & ddc groups online.

[Sandrine]

I only told one of irl friend and a few online. I want to wait until about the 12-13thwks. I guessing I'm being supertitious(sp) because with my m/c we told everyone when we found out as my first 2 pg went great. So, i'm worried that if i tell before the 12-13th wk, that i will lose this child too. It sounds silly but that's how i feel.

[Jish]

I've told my mother, and several friends and you all, of course. I've only told people that I would tell if I miscarried. We are waiting until Christmas to tell the rest of the family and my three boys. I'll be 11 weeks just before Christmas and I feel pretty good that things will be okay by then. At least as okay as they can be when you are pregnant. I have my first ob appt on Dec 12th and I'll be 9 1/2 weeks. If my ob holds true to form she will try to find the heartbeat, but she won't be able to because it's still pretty early to hear the heartbeat plus my uterus is tipped back so she will do a vaginal ultrasound. In the past I've never really been concerned about hearing the heartbeat that early, but this time I really want to make sure that things are going okay. I don't feel 36, but I'm afraid that my eggs do.

[beautyful]

We've told pretty much all of our friends. I've told my parents and sister and one cousin, but that's it.

We're waiting until December to tell MIL when she comes to visit. We'll probably call FIL after that, but I'm not sure.

[mimi_n_tre]

Sandrine,
I know exactly how you feel. I told everyone as soon as I found out in January, and had a miscarriage about a week later. Then I found out I was pregnant with Jase and had an ultrasound at 8 weeks, and decided to tell everyone then. But even then, I never would have guess that he wouldn't have made it. I think I'll wait a while, due to the same reason, that if I tell everyone, that this baby will go away too.

Love,
Mary

[SoCalGirl]

I told my mom the day after I got my positive HPT. I have told four of my girlfriends, plus people online (i.e. here) and that's it. I don't know when we will tell my MIL (leaving that up to DH, whenever he thinks he's ready to share).

We'll tell my brother at Thanksgiving b/c he's visiting us then. We don't live near any of our family, so he's the one person we'll be able to tell in person.

I don't have my first appt. until Dec. 2, so I may just wait to tell anyone else until after that. At that point I'll be 10 weeks, which isn't totally out of the woods, but it seems safer somehow at that point. On the one hand, I want to tell everyone all at once, but then I keep reading about miscarriages and realizing that a lot of people DO miscarry way farther along than I am now, and I just want to be SURE it's all going ok before making it known to too many.

[ma_Donna]

My son - he's just 2 and says "hiding button baby" which I think means the baby is hiding in my belly button

My DH - I had DS tell him (he said baby into the phone)... I was trying not to call him at work so I could tell him in person, but I just couldn't hold it in!

My naturopathic doctor who I saw just 2 weeks ago for a fertility consult (I O'd on cd46!)

DS pediatrician at his 2 year appointment

The birth center

We'll see how it goes with my folks, I live in Alaska and they live in NJ (until they move to DE) and Noah and I are going back next week for Thanksgiving (DH is in the field).

If I don't start getting m/s I may be able to hold it together until after Thanksgiving - I may well tell my parents, but if I tell them before the family gathering my Mom is very likely to spill the beans although they didn't tell family about me until Valentine's Day (baby is due on my b-day).

Our first appointment is December 6th where they are likely to do an u/s (at my request since our first pg was a blighted ovum), so then I'll feel OK telling DH's family for Christmas (in NY we arrive Christmas Eve). And I think we'll wait for work & friends (which are intwined with work) after we get back from the trip Jan 4.

I'm very excited at being able to tell our family in person this time. Heck, Dh was in Scotland when I found I was pg with Noah!

Thanks for listening to my 'ramble' I'm thinking out 'loud'

[momsmyjob]

So far *I* have told my sister..*dh* everybody