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post #61 of 150
Re: birth plan. I replied in your other thread, but I think this thread is the place to be! (And, I didn't really provide a plan anyway!)
post #62 of 150
Hi all--

Thought I would post my birth story:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=358694

I had a relatively great experience this time around, and it was due to an understanding doc and our birth plan (which the nurses followed to the letter).

hi to all new mamas, got to go nurse!
post #63 of 150
Hi,

I had a friend who just had a c/s and I'd like to take her some stuff this week for her (not for baby), like fun and pampering stuff. I have a book and magazine in mind, and maybe some herbal tea mixes for female systems, but I was wondering if anyone has any other ideas for good post c/s stuff. I will probably throw in some good snacks but food didn't seem to be something she was interested in.
post #64 of 150
I loooooved the Badger Balm healing balm (I think they called it healing balm, might have been healing oil or something like that) for massaging over my incision. I know you're supposed to do the scar massage without oil or lotion, but in the first few weeks it was just too uncomfortable. And the badger balm stuff smelled wonderful and felt great rubbed across my tummy and incision area. You can usually start gentle scar massage within a week or so of the c/s (once the skin has healed over) but you friend might want to ask her doctor just to be on the safe side.

Oh, and I had a great "bath salt" type product a friend made me for soaking my feet while nursing....lots of mint and lavender. It was a relaxing pick-me-up (I know that sounds funny) that really helped since my feet were swollen after my c/s.

Anyway, a yummy massage lotion/moisturizer or an herbal foot soak might be a nice addition. Your friend is so lucky to have someone like you to think of her needs at this time (rather than just the baby's!).
post #65 of 150
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Originally Posted by wombatclay
I loooooved the Badger Balm healing balm (I think they called it healing balm, might have been healing oil or something like that) for massaging over my incision. I know you're supposed to do the scar massage without oil or lotion, but in the first few weeks it was just too uncomfortable. And the badger balm stuff smelled wonderful and felt great rubbed across my tummy and incision area. You can usually start gentle scar massage within a week or so of the c/s (once the skin has healed over) but you friend might want to ask her doctor just to be on the safe side.

Oh, and I had a great "bath salt" type product a friend made me for soaking my feet while nursing....lots of mint and lavender. It was a relaxing pick-me-up (I know that sounds funny) that really helped since my feet were swollen after my c/s.

Anyway, a yummy massage lotion/moisturizer or an herbal foot soak might be a nice addition. Your friend is so lucky to have someone like you to think of her needs at this time (rather than just the baby's!).
Thanks. What kind of store could I find that stuff in? Would any Body Shop type place have it, or Whole Foods maybe?
post #66 of 150
April, I didn't have any "pampering" stuff with any of my sections - but a lot of moms have said that they really enjoyed something warm (hot water bottle, microwaveble heat pad, etc.) pressed against the abdomen. Maybe you could include something like that?
post #67 of 150
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride
April, I didn't have any "pampering" stuff with any of my sections - but a lot of moms have said that they really enjoyed something warm (hot water bottle, microwaveble heat pad, etc.) pressed against the abdomen. Maybe you could include something like that?
Thanks, I will put in that or heat wraps I saw somewhere else.

I didn't have any either after my c/s, but I also didn't have too much scar pain and since it was 2 years ago I'm having a hard time now thinking about what I actually physically wanted in those first weeks (other than to have a replay, unfortunately no one can give us that). Maybe it would have helped some anyhow, so I thought I'd try and include something. At any rate, I think having "mom" stuff is the key while everyone is focusing on baby, that's the hard part.
post #68 of 150
Hi all! I just wanted to introduce myself into this thread. I my first section in march 03 for my breech dd who just wouldn't turn. Started planning an HBAC with my second, but had kell antibodies and was high-risk. Had my second section in October 04. I am still working through some issues with my births and if the next baby is kell negative, i will plan a HBA2C. But i gotta do what i gotta do for my babies. So hi :

April, after my scar healed up and the hair was growing back, it was soooooo itchy so my dh got me some sugar scrub in oil (or maybe it was sea salt?) and it really helped. It helped exfoliate and then the oil calmed the skin so it wasn't as itchy (for a few minutes at least ) I think that you can get it pretty much any bath type store.
post #69 of 150
I got the badger balm (they also make a great soothing/sleepy rub for babies) in the natural food section of our local supermarkert (a wegmans, if that helps...not sure what area they cover). The badger balm website is http://www.badgerbalm.com/ and they might have a store finder. But I'm sure any soothing, rich, oil would be as yummy!
post #70 of 150
I just checked their website...I used both the unscented healing balm and the healing birch massage oil (the birch smells sooooo good too!)
post #71 of 150
They do have Badger Balm at Whole Foods. Thanks all!
post #72 of 150
Momto1and1ontheway - I have been working on mine. If you still need more info after looking at Kim's let me know. Hers was very helpful to me. I would be happy to share mine with you. BTW, it looks like we are due right about the same time.
post #73 of 150
Hi all! I thought I would stop lurking and introduce myself as I'm going to be asking a lot of questions soon. As you can see from my siggy, I'm expecting triplets in June (My OB is hoping to get me to the last week of April or the beginning of May but we won't know for certain until we get closer.) After doing a lot of research, talking to other moms of trips, my OB and periantologist I've pretty much accepted the fact that I will be having a c/s. At first I was really bummed, but the more I read about how difficult it is for them to accurately monitor 3 babes, the more comfortable I became with it. After all, what is more important to me...a vaginal delivery or keeping my babes safe?

So now I am working on a birth plan and figuring out what we need. I'd like to get a few questions ready for my OB at our next appointment and reading everyone's experiences has really helped a lot. Are there any books that you recommend? Someone recommended Birthing from Within but I found it to be more applicable to unplanned c/s than to knowing you are having one by the end of your first trimester. Also, should I still look into getting a doula or, since I have a very large family and a responsive OB should I just make sure everyone knows what I want and have a lot of copies of the birth plan? DH's step-mother has offered to be there and make sure I get what I want and also my dad (a nurse) and his girlfriend (a NICU nurse) will also be there.

Thanks for all your help!!
post #74 of 150
I would still hire a doula -- relatives might still worry about you and act on that worry, where a professional can focus on you & the birth in an "unloaded" way. Definitely go for a doula w/experience in planned surgical birth, and preferably experience w/multiples as well -- that may be a tall order.

My surgical birth was not planned but a book that really helped me was "Hands of Love: 7 Steps to the Miracle of Birth" by Carol J. Phillips. She's a chiropractor and homebirth doula who also attends hospital birth; her info on cesaerean birth planning and making surgery birth-friendly was essential to me in facing my fears about possible hospital birth. The single act of having my midwife stay with me in surgery while my husband accompanied our son to the nursery was worth the price of the book, but there's a lot of great, positive suggestion in there.

One personal suggestion I have for you, if it feels right -- have a friend taping through the nursery window when the babes are briefly separated from you. A friend did this for us while my husband was with our son immediately post-partum (while I had my stitches), & watching that tape of his first moments made me feel closer to our son during that "bonding" time. (Also I was glad my husband didn't do it -- he could focus on his new child instead.)

I know it sounds weird to say it on a natural-family board, but as a planned homebirther who made it through the hospital surprisingly happy I say -- enjoy your adventure! Some women's bodies open without assistance to let their children out -- ours have opened with assistance to do the same. May you be lovingly attended!
post #75 of 150
One books to check might be "Cesarean section : understanding and celebrating your baby's birth" by Michele Moore and Caroline de Costa (Johns Hopkins University Press).

I had an unplanned c/s and found this book later...it's aimed more at women planning cesareans, and takes the (unconventional for the mothering community) view that since so many women DO have cesareans, it doesn't make sense to discuss c/s as an "un-natural" or "non-normal" event. According to the book jacket:

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Caesarean section is often seen as an unnecessary medical intervention or even as a personal failure for a woman, and is an option often feared by expectant mothers. Here, the authors emphasize the joy of delivering a baby, whatever the method, explaining all the issues surrounding Caesareans.

From anesthesia, surgery, and recovery through at-home care of mother and child, the authors offer reassurance and practical information for all mothers and mothers-to-be. They also discuss the latest findings on postpartum depression and planning for future births, including the possibility of vaginal birth after a Cesarean section.

Because up to a quarter of all births are Cesarean births.... We believe strongly that it is time to speak out and say that Cesarean section is a normal birth method and that women who have a Cesarean section should not be made to feel that they have failed.
I didn't agree with all the information presented (or at least, I didn't always agree with the WAY that information was presented), but I think that in the case of a planned c/s this might be a great resource!

good luck mama...it sounds like you're in for a wonderful adventure!
post #76 of 150
I will have to check out that book...I mean, I don't think a c-section is something to celebrate necessarily (or should be "normal"), but the birth itself is a celebration. Does that make sense?

mimid--Congratulations on your triplets! What an amazing journey for you, mama! My 2 cents...I have had one unplanned and one planned c-section and in terms of the planned, the things that I changed were that I got to see the baby right after he came out for a second, and I got to hold him in the OR vs recovery while I was being stitched. Those were the most important things to me because they didn't happen with the 1st. Also that I didn't have any IV drugs (other than the one for nausea that doesn't make you woozy...can't remember the name of it...) so I was fully present for birth and recovery. Taking TONS of pictures was also important, plus video.

good luck...there are lots of resources as you plan.
post #77 of 150
There is some info on this site regarding cesarean birth plans:
http://www.caesarean.org.uk

Warning... there is some graphic stuff on that site so be careful where you click!
post #78 of 150
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Originally Posted by wombatclay
One books to check might be "Cesarean section : understanding and celebrating your baby's birth" by Michele Moore and Caroline de Costa (Johns Hopkins University Press).

I had an unplanned c/s and found this book later...it's aimed more at women planning cesareans, and takes the (unconventional for the mothering community) view that since so many women DO have cesareans, it doesn't make sense to discuss c/s as an "un-natural" or "non-normal" event. According to the book jacket:



I didn't agree with all the information presented (or at least, I didn't always agree with the WAY that information was presented), but I think that in the case of a planned c/s this might be a great resource!

good luck mama...it sounds like you're in for a wonderful adventure!
Thanks! I'm almost 15 months past my c/s and I'm STILL working through feelings. I may have to find that book!
post #79 of 150
Thanks for the tips ladies! I'm off to nap and then will start looking for the books and I'll check out the site.
post #80 of 150
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"Cesarean section : understanding and celebrating your baby's birth" by Michele Moore and Caroline de Costa (Johns Hopkins University Press).
Just a quick comment on this book...you may want to check it out of a library (that's where I got it) instead of buying. I think it would be a good book for someone who is planning a c/s. It's very supportive of that choice and has some good information about planning/having/recovering from a c/s. That said, I think it's really aimed at the pre-c/s mama who is planning a positive c/s birth rather than at the (more than a few weeks) post-unplanned c/s mama. For example, it covers types of medications used, possible side effects, ways to bond in the hospital, types of sutures available, what to expect in the first few days, etc.

What it didn't offer was a way for me to come to terms with my unplanned c/s months after the operation. That's just me, and other mamas may find it more helpful on a "processing" level, but I'd still recommend finding a copy in the library.
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