Having to Explain My C-section
I peek in here but haven't posted much because I am trying not to dwell too much on the c-section I had two months ago. I am also trying to refrain from researching VBACs until I am ready to get pregnant again. I am just trying to enjoy my beautiful daughter.
Well, last night I went to a LLL meeting at the hospital and at first was lost and went to the cafeteria where I ran into two other moms who were lost too. We sat and nursed and talked and I found myself telling my story (past due and not progressing toward labor, U/S showed 9lb10oz baby with lots of fluid, evil "med"wife told us to do c-section over the phone, we resisted and went into see doctor and had everything explained to us - suspected missed GD, lots of pressure from the family, scheduled the c-section 10 days past her due date hoping she would come out, but she didn't, she was born with large head, chest and 9lbs8.5oz). Then, while we were sitting there a pregnant woman came in to use the vending machine - she had been on the hospital tour. She looked over at us nursing and said "how nice" then asked if we had delivered there and I told her I had. She asked how I liked it and I made a face and told her I had a c-section. I told her the quick and dirty version of it and she said to me "You know you didn't need to have a c-section."
Uh, gee thanks a lot. I know that when we made the decision I felt that it was the correct one, even though I felt crappy about the whole thing. The farther I get from it though, the more I doubt. My fantasy is that I VBAC a huge baby the next time, over an intact perinium and then I will write to the medwife and doctors involved about how they should be more careful about recommending major surgery unnessesarily. It pissed me off that this woman said this to me. I wonder if it was her first child. I know when I was pregnant I was a bit smug when I heard about women having c-sections for "failure to progress" type of reasons. I would think that it would never happen to me (I was taking hypnobirthing and feeling confident in my body's ability to birth my baby, until of course I was told that I couldn't). I sometimes wonder if the universe punished me for that smugness by giving me a c-section.