Grumble thread...

[Queen of Cups]

What are you annoyed about today?

I'm annoyed that DS woke up before 7am, and by 9am I had: fixed and served him breakfast, swept the kitchen, picked up the living room, picked up the nursery, changed a massively poopy diaper, gotten DS dressed, got myself dressed, picked up the master bedroom, put in a load of laundry, bagged up my sister's clean laundry that's been in the basement for several days...

MIL is here to help, but she just seems totally unable to SEE a mess. As soon as I start cleaning something she says, "Oh, I can do that." And then I want to shout, "Why didn't you already do it, then? The crumbs have been on the floor for two days! The shoes have been lying around all week! There is a full basket of laundry in every bedroom and the linen closet!" I really don't think my housekeeping standards are _that_ high. I have a list on the fridge of all the chores that should be done everyday, but I don't think its being read very often by anyone in the house... But, FIL does the vast majority of cleaning at her house so I know she's not used to doing any housework.

I shouldn't whine, though, I really appreciate the fact that she watches DS every afternoon so I can take a nap, and that she fixes dinner every night so I don't have to... but sometimes I feel like she's getting to do all the fun stuff so I have time to clean when things get really bad.

Plus, I had contractions on and off all day long yesterday - some were so intense I had to find a seat and use my Hypnobabies cue-words, and yet I'm still not in active labor. Maybe if I just go nuts cleaning today I'll go into labor tonight. Of course, that was the plan with shopping yesterday and it didn't work...

[PicnicBear]

Originally Posted by Queen of Cups

but sometimes I feel like she's getting to do all the fun stuff so I have time to clean when things get really bad.

My LLL leader warned me about that kind of "help" from people. "I'll hold the baby while you do all the housework stuff" Gee, thanks . . she doesn't sound *that* bad though.

I already polluted the weekly thread with my own whinings, but I'll be back later to chime in here, I'm sure.

[samsmamma]

I am actually in a pretty good mood today. My grumble is really jsut a bit of preschooler frustration. Sam won't stop picking his nose! And therefore he perpetually has a cold. he never used to get sick - the docs were amazed at his little immune system (2+ yrs of breastfeeding!) and now he is a germ factory. I know that's life in school and everything, but I still don't like it. And he won't stop picking! We try not to make a big deal of it but at the same time it's just yucky. Especially b/c he then comes and wipes his boogies off on us! So as I said somewhere else I think, at least I'm trying to get him to be better about hand washing so that he's not sticking the germs right up his nose all the time. It's really frustrating.

Other than that...I'm tired, but that's nothing new. I'm working from home tomorrow, it's DH's birthday. He's going to golf in the AM and play poker tomorrow night and then golf again on Saturday, so I'm not going to see much of him this weekend, which is kind of a drag. Oh well.

[babykaoss]

Originally Posted by samsmamma

He's going to golf in the AM and play poker tomorrow night and then golf again on Saturday, so I'm not going to see much of him this weekend, which is kind of a drag. Oh well.

i'm kinda grumpy about this type of thing too. my dh had to play last night at a club, and he has to play an out of town party friday night, and then has a friend from out of state coming over on saturday night to work on a song w/ him...........

so much for ME. *pout* :

[flapjack]

5 nosebleeds in 7 hours. The taste of blood makes me feel sick...

[bec]

I'm annoyed that I still have a stuffed up nose, and nothing is helping. Ok, here's my hidden disappointment with NFL. Homeopathic remedies don't work as well as Afrin! I wish they did, but they don't.

QOC - It sounds like you MIL is willing to help, but has no initiative on what needs to be done. Maybe you could suggest that she put the laundry in. You could couch it in the, "It's just too heavy for me right now," terms. I have a really hard time asking for help, but am really trying to. I hosted a playgroup a couple of weeks ago, and one of the women asked me if she could help me clean up a bit towards the end. I was about to say no, but then stopped myself, and said, "Yes, I would love the help." She did all my dishes that had been generated by the playgroup. It was such a big help! And the other mothers helped to pick up the toys that had been pulled off the shelves. It is so hard to do, but such a relief when you actually get the help you need!


Bec

[Belleweather]

If one more coworker looks at me and says "So, you're still HERE, huh?" in that condescending oh-poor-irrational-pregnant-lady tone, they're gonna start thinkin' they work at the postal service!

Honestly, I might as well be HERE earning the rather exorbiant per-hour wage you pay me to surf the internet rather than at home waiting impatiently to go into labor and surfing the internet.

[PicnicBear]

Originally Posted by Belleweather

at home waiting impatiently to go into labor and surfing the internet.

hey -- what's wrong with that
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[zjande]

I had intensely painful, very regular contractions last night. I was thinking it "might be it" & mentally planning the trip to the hospital when the cx slowly started to each feel weaker. Another hour later & they stopped. So, I had to deal with serious pain that lead (seemingly) nowhere, got no sleep, & today just feel GROSS! Why do I feel so gross?? I have no appetite, food makes my stomach hurt, I'm contracty but nowhere near regularly, I'm so sleepy I've slept most of the day, haven't cleaned a thing or gotten dressed......

Grr. I'm just feeling whiny. If I didn't feel so gross & sleepy it'd be easier to distract myself.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[BensMom]

I'll whine and vent, too! I feel so good in the mornings, full of energy (well, comparatively so) and able to do stuff like shopping, meeting friends for lunch, Dr/MW visits with no problems. I have even been surviving the long afternoons with DS.

But at around 4:30, its like my body and mind shuts down. I am so achy, my belly weighs 54 lbs, my back aches, I am emotional, I cant think straight enough to even cook dinner, I loose patience with DS, my pets bug the heck out of me and poor DH is left to pick up the slack. I wish I had some of the energy when he was around. I wish I could make it to 7pm (bedtime) before I become Mommie Dearest to my son. I wish I wasnt so achy at night that I wonder if I am in labor.

I guess at least I feel ok during the days and thats better than some. Maybe I am overdoing it. Who knows. But Bens not in school tomorrow, so I will have to find some way to entertain him all day and still maintain my sanity.

[MrsMoe]

Originally Posted by Queen of Cups

What are you annoyed about today?

I'm annoyed that DS woke up before 7am, and by 9am I had: fixed and served him breakfast, swept the kitchen, picked up the living room, picked up the nursery, changed a massively poopy diaper, gotten DS dressed, got myself dressed, picked up the master bedroom, put in a load of laundry, bagged up my sister's clean laundry that's been in the basement for several days...

MIL is here to help, but she just seems totally unable to SEE a mess. As soon as I start cleaning something she says, "Oh, I can do that." And then I want to shout, "Why didn't you already do it, then? The crumbs have been on the floor for two days! The shoes have been lying around all week! There is a full basket of laundry in every bedroom and the linen closet!" I really don't think my housekeeping standards are _that_ high. I have a list on the fridge of all the chores that should be done everyday, but I don't think its being read very often by anyone in the house... But, FIL does the vast majority of cleaning at her house so I know she's not used to doing any housework.

I shouldn't whine, though, I really appreciate the fact that she watches DS every afternoon so I can take a nap, and that she fixes dinner every night so I don't have to... but sometimes I feel like she's getting to do all the fun stuff so I have time to clean when things get really bad.

Plus, I had contractions on and off all day long yesterday - some were so intense I had to find a seat and use my Hypnobabies cue-words, and yet I'm still not in active labor. Maybe if I just go nuts cleaning today I'll go into labor tonight. Of course, that was the plan with shopping yesterday and it didn't work...

She sounds like she is more on a mini-vacation to play with her grandchild than there to help you, though the dinner making hting is VERY cool. You know what? If you feel yucky, you are having nasty contrax, do what I do. Nothing. My husband has been a huge help, and if I ask him for a hand he totally helps out. The world won't come to an end if there are crumbs on the floor and a bit of laundry to be folded. I do what I can, here and there, but with contrax every half hour and this naty groin pain (like aliens chewing the inside of my thigh) everytime I walk or stand or lift my right leg, I refuse push myself. I figure this... with labor day so soon, is a super clean house vs a bit of a mess worth being all worn out?

So if you wanna relax, realx, and dont' feel guilty!!!

Oh, and tell your sister to do her own &%$# laundry!!!

[AmyGirl28]

Grumble of the day....
Why did I agree to these damn internal exams? I have been having pressure and braxton hicks and guess what... no dialation, no effacement, nada, zip, zero, zilch! Now I'm down in the dumps, wondering if this baby is ever going to come. Even though I still have two weeks to go. I'm sure a lot of you are in the same boat. Especially willemsmama. So I really don't have any room to grumble. So, I'll stop.

[DreamsInDigital]

My grumble of the day is that I'm still effing pregnant and everyone is calling and emailing asking if I've had the baby yet.
ARGH!

[MamaFern]

Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital

My grumble of the day is that I'm still effing pregnant and everyone is calling and emailing asking if I've had the baby yet.
ARGH!

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ive had a whole bunch of people call today wondering if i am in labour or feeling anything or had the baby yet.. im not even due till tomorow..or in a few hours now but still! its hard enuff to wait..having people call is frustrating. i mean i appreaciate that they care.. but why dont they come over and give me a massage instead?

[flyingspaghettimama]

Originally Posted by MamaFern

i mean i appreaciate that they care.. but why dont they come over and give me a massage instead?

Ha. Totally. Wait until you go over! God forbid, of course. I have so many people calling and emailing...it's nice that they care, but I'm feeling some performance anxiety here...

Bensmama, I have the same problem with the Anticlimactic Clock 'O' Birth. I start out totally happy in the morning, sure that today is The Day... by 3, I can't believe nothing's happened yet... and by 5 pm, I'm bummed that another day has passed with no baby; by 10pm I've decided to funnel all of that bummedness into a generalized anxiety. I mean, why else would a person be looking up postdate problems on google at 10:30? My husband is threatening to take away my computer. It seems wise, as a hypochondriac's best friend really is the Internet. Then, around 3 am I wake up and feel a new wave of bummedness, as my MW said many women go into labor in the middle of the night, at around 3 am or so. But not me...and then we start afresh the next morning.

[3for3hb]

Originally Posted by BensMom

I am so achy, my belly weighs 54 lbs, my back aches, I am emotional, I cant think straight enough to even cook dinner, I loose patience with DS, my pets bug the heck out of me and poor DH is left to pick up the slack. I wish I had some of the energy when he was around. I wish I could make it to 7pm (bedtime) before I become Mommie Dearest to my son. I wish I wasnt so achy at night that I wonder if I'm in labor

Could have written that myself Jenn!! I'm glad we can co-miserate because it really helps to know that I'm NOT the only one. Before I joined this board I really thought that pregnancy was unusually cruel to me but now I realize that most other pregnant women I've known have just kept their complaints to themselves so seem like they just glide through pregnancy unscythed.

I swear if I sneeze, this baby is gonna crown. Every move I make has to literally be planned out and executed just right otherwise I have to cover my mouth so as not to scare ds with yelp/scream of pain. Most positions are uncomfortable, including lying down. My diaphragm is starting to spasm for some reason. All night last night I had the cervical punches that made my pelvic floor feel like a dartboard. My bowels have slowed down and everytime I have to move them I swear I'm going to pass out from the pain.

... and they say I have to do this for HOW MUCH longer???

[samsmamma]

Well, we actually did the deed last night to celebrate DH's bday and all it gave me was HEARTBURN! Awful awful horrible terrible heartburn!

So much for that...

Well, the cheesecake I got him for bday cake was yummy, at least...

[Bex80]

Oh I am *so* glad that I stumbled upon this thread. I have a few things about which to grumble!

1. Dh snored *ALL* night last night, and three of those hours I was having contractions (which petered out and pissed me off even more )

2. Water is now giving me heartburn. Note to self, buy more Tums today...

3. At my MW appt. on Monday, I was full of false hope when I found out I was 2 cm dilated and 50% effaced. MW said she would be suprised if I showed up for my next weekly appointment still pregnant. Bless her heart, she is so sweet, but I just got too hopeful. Plus losing (part of?) my mucous plug that night didn't help.

4. I cleaned the dickens out of my entire house and had it *perfect* on Tuesday. Now the laundry is piling, crumbs are gathering, and stuff is getting cluttered. It would stay nice if I weren't the *only* person trying to keep it that way. I know the important stuff is still *clean* clean, like the bathrooms, kitchen, nursery, bedrooms-but the common areas really get to me.

5. I had to take the garbage to the curb AGAIN this morning. This is a mjor grumble for me because dh professes that he is really going to do a lot when Abigail gets here, but I guess I don't get any help while I'm 39 weeks prgnant?

I think that's it. I feel better now.

[PicnicBear]

I hear all you mamas -- yesterday was veg out with videos day and it did pass the time, but we can't do that today -- that was kind of a treat to celebrate my due date. Now I need to decide if I am going to go into school today -- it's quite a drive home (2 hours) in Chicago traffic and last Friday totally exhausted me and made me miserable. Plus, I am tired of seeing people there. DH will go I guess -- I don't know. OK, I will post a more coherent grumble later, perhaps.

[BensMom]

Originally Posted by Bex80

. MW said she would be suprised if I showed up for my next weekly appointment still pregnant.

I think all care providers who make statements like this to women in their late 3rd trimester should be tarred and feathered in the public sqaure.