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Why don't more people babywear?

post #1 of 41
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It's been nice this last week so DS and I have gone up town a few times (super small town, cute town square with lots of neat LITTLE stores) A lot of SAHM's must hit the square around the same time I've been up there because it is always full of mom's with these HUGE strollers. OMGosh! Our stroller (travel system, came with the carseat) got packed away 3 months ago so I'd forgotten how huge the darn things are. I feel like a little Geo in a sea of Hummers. I got Heel Checked more times than I can count. Watched the moms struggle to manouver those huge strollers in these little shops (full of stuff for sale, really really narrow walkways). I had DS in the sling or Mei Tai, I just waltzed through. My biggest pain was DS grabbing for stuff I was looking at.

I know I'm preaching to the choir here, but none of my IRL friends would understand if I said how much easier baby wearing is they think I'm crazy.

my slings!!!

for introducing me to the wonderful world of babywearing!!!
post #2 of 41
I hate those baby Hummers too! I live in a biggish suburban area w/ tons of SAHMs and the only time I see babywearing is at LLL meetings. Today I was at Sprouts Market w/ ds in the MT and an older woman told me "you don't see many people using those" and then she asked "are they comfortable like that?" I was like, , a lot more comfy than an infant bucket! Who wouldn't like being held close all the time?
post #3 of 41
More people don't babywear, cause they just don't know about them. First time I'd heard of a sling, it was a Maya Wrap, and I was like, "Hey, I can carry my baby with this piece of fabric, fold it up and put it in my diaper bag, and go? (Try doing THAT with a baby bucket or a stroller!) I"m sold!"

I would be so afraid to use a stroller in a shop like that, I'd be afraid of bumping something fragile and breaking it.
post #4 of 41
I only had a Snuggli with my first two. I also didn't know about all of these different kinds of slings, pouches, and such. I did see women using Maya type slings once in a blue moon, and I thought they were kinda ugly, with all that extra fabric (not to mention the ugly fabrics that were used) and I never really knew all the benefits of babywearing. There are a lot of people who just don't realize what's out there I guess. I just ordered a black fleece pouch yesterday for this new babe on the way, and I can't wait to use it!
post #5 of 41
I wish I did ....I was so sick all the time and weak from massive blood loss that I could barely hold myself up at times....still not all right after 16 mo..
anyhow...what would ya'l reccomend for an newborn that could still be used for many months ..my SIL just gave birth to a lil 6lber, and thnking of intro'ing her to wearing...she will be strictly bf'ing for a while but will be going back to work but from her home..thought it may help her out a bit.
shes a nervous new mom..
thanks
post #6 of 41
Wraps can be used for all ages, but they're kind of hard to use. Ring slings are pretty good, hard on the shoulder though when they get heavy. I really want to try a mei tai. I think they can be used with newborns, with a bit of adjusting.
post #7 of 41
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Originally Posted by Persephone
More people don't babywear, cause they just don't know about them.
ITA.

frowningfrog, in addition to what PP suggests, some people like stretchy wraps for a newborn, and some people like pouches... pouches are easier to learn at first and there are some really stylish ones! and you can continue to use them up through a toddler hip carry - but wraps have other advantages (bf'ing hands-free may be of interest?) and IMHO it doesn't take toooo long to learn a single way to use a wrap, it's partly that they can be used a skillion different ways and each takes extra time to learn (for a stretchy w/ newborn most people would only use it maybe 1 or 2 ways anyway?)
post #8 of 41
I think wraps can be intimidating... it's a lot of fabric, and not a lot of structure. But the benefits... you can wear it a zillion different ways, and you can keep on using it from the newborn stage right up through toddlerhood. I can't think of a more versatile baby carrier... and some of the fabrics are just gorgeous! (Can you tell I'm in love with wraps? )
post #9 of 41
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Originally Posted by Persephone
More people don't babywear, cause they just don't know about them. First time I'd heard of a sling, it was a Maya Wrap, and I was like, "Hey, I can carry my baby with this piece of fabric, fold it up and put it in my diaper bag, and go? (Try doing THAT with a baby bucket or a stroller!) I"m sold!"

I would be so afraid to use a stroller in a shop like that, I'd be afraid of bumping something fragile and breaking it.
I think she's right - I didn't really know about slings either before. I had seen those backpack thingies for hiking but that was about it. But I can't understand why so many women want to use strollers. I understand at times it's might be more useful because you can stick things in there and you don't have to carry a diaper bag you can set it inside - ( but then I hate attracting attention so I'd be too shy to lug around a huge "hummer"! ) It seems so much easier to just carry them close to you instead of pushing a huge thing around!
post #10 of 41
I heard of slings through another site that I read, but never found a good one, I think I had a "snugly" one. i hated it. then I heard of maya wraps and bought one. I love my maya but a 22lbs my dd got to big and now we have a backpack and I adore that. I love having her close but I so miss my sling and the extreme closeness pf my sling. I teach a parenting class and I always talk about the benefits of slings and carriers, though i do not promote a certain one, I model a sling ring style. I always look at babies in the snuggli front carriers and thgough they seem content, they also seem like they are bouncing all over. they worry me....b ut that is another thread.
post #11 of 41
I think babywearing is catching on some. I see more and more women carrying babies in various carriers. I know i've gotten lots of compliments from women in my mother's generation saying how they wish slings had been invented when they had little ones and that they see so many of them. I smile at the thought of slings being invented (like 10000 years ago) and tell them how much i love mine. I think the more people are out in public with slings and carriers, the more they popularize.

Also, in defense of stroller/carseat systems. I love mine. I like being able to bring a sleeping baby in from the car and continue her nap. I don't use my stroller nearly as much as some moms and never take it shopping but i do like to take a walk with it sometimes. I live on a town green with a 2 mile walking path. It is nice to not carry dd for that half hour. My back gets tired from holding and wearing her all the time.
post #12 of 41
To answer the original question, I really don't think some parents know that there is an easier way.

I am sooooooo glad I was exposed to it through LLL.
post #13 of 41
I agree-I think that people just don't know that much about them. I think that is the one good thing about the Baby Bjorn. It is an awful carrier-but its out there for mainstream use-if people see it or even try to use it-they may "seek out" other carriers...I think most of it is by word of mouth. I get so many comments and stares when I am out with mine. When my mom saw my wrap for the first time-she told me that a lot of women used them in the 60's. She didn't though, but one of her good friends did.
post #14 of 41
I think people don't know about the huge variety of baby carriers, and most aren't available in stores so they never learn about them.
post #15 of 41
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I think that is the one good thing about the Baby Bjorn. It is an awful carrier-but its out there for mainstream use-if people see it or even try to use it-they may "seek out" other carriers.
I see this question ALL the time.

"my baby loves the bjorn, but is getting too big/heavy. Help!"

Then they try a sling and the bjorn gets tossed.
post #16 of 41
I did try it but ds would have nothing to do with it He cried while I put him in the sling then the whole time in it. I even made my own bought the instructions off ebay. I wish I could have sure would have been easier than pushing him around in the stroller trying to fit stuff in the tiny space under it.
post #17 of 41
I don't babywear much anymore because dd2 stopped wanting to be in it a month or so ago. She still likes to be carried, but not in a sling (she kicks at the fabric and arches her back until I take her out). She also sleeps VERY well in a stroller, and not so well in a sling. She's 7 1/2 months old.

Dd1 lived in a sling until she was about 14 months old.
post #18 of 41
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Originally Posted by Persephone
More people don't babywear, cause they just don't know about them.
Yup. People just don't hear about these things and most of their mothers probably didn't BW. I think I only knew about Baby Bjorns and NoJos because I wandered into them online while pg with Griffin. I figured the Bjorn would be good because my mom had a Snugli. And get this - I figured the Bjorn would be BETTER than a Snugli because it looked more structured. Stiffer and more luggage-y is better, right?

I had no idea about the wonderful world of WAHM slings until I saw one on an MDC mama I met, and I didn't venture into MTs and wraps until Reese was born. I only found out about them because of boards like this and TBW.

Women nearly never see anybody wearing a baby. Heck, I'm very BWing aware now and I still nearly never notice even Bjorns in my city. Magazines seldom show slings. Mainstream stores carry a limited supply and in the Target near me, the slings/carriers are up high on a shelf. Compare that to the HUGE stroller display...people just never see the carriers unless they're looking for them.

Add to that the fact that when people DO see images of women wearing babies, it's usually women in "tribal" societies in other countries. Many people assume that low-tech is not as good as high-tech, and that low-tech solutions are only used by poor people. So they may think that BWing is something that only poor women in less-developed countries do. :
post #19 of 41
They need to be sold in regular stores and they need to be more affordable. I love my pouches but I certainly wouldn't spend $70 on them. I was able to get them used for less than $30 which I think Is a more reasonable price for them.

I get asked about mine all the time but when I say got them on the internet, the person loses interest right away, esp when they learn what the retail price is for them (name brand)
post #20 of 41
I didn't know about them with my first, and with my second I was given a maya wrap but couldn't get the hang of it -- it hurt my shoulder and I could never get it snug around the baby and feeling right. I was disinclined to try another one because I just couldn't see shelling what was to me a lot of money at the time when I didn't even know if it would work for me. And because they don't sell them in stores, you can't just try out different ones before buying, and the choices can be daunting.

With all the talk here on MDC about how great slings are, though, I kept thinking I really should give it another try. So with my third I took a chance with an OTSBH. It took me a long time before it felt like it was easy to use, but I persevered! and boy did it pay off. It is SO much more convenient than using a stroller or just carrying a baby. I always feel sorry for people lugging their kids around, I can practically feel their suffering.

My OTSBH fell apart after two years of heavy use (fabric got worn and starting to tear) and I had never been happy with the tail so I started looking at different slings, but again I felt daunted by the choices and inability to try them out before buying. So I took apart my OTSBH to see how it was constructed, and made my own sling.

We also got rid of the stroller -- I never used it because it was too much of a hassle, and it was just taking up space and collecting dust. Now when I go out and forget my sling I'm seriously bummed because I'm not strong enough anymore to carry the baby without it, and sometimes she just will not sit in the cart. The sling keeps both of us happy.
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