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post #61 of 96
Thanks guys! I didnt feel like it was so unusual until I got the negative reaction from the staff. I guess I'm going to continue my search for another dentist. I just didnt feel comfortable with how strongly they felt abt me being there. Nice to know I'm not the only one that goes back.
post #62 of 96
Well, I'm not smilemomma (who I am in awe of as I've been lurking a bit and I'm a newish dentist), and I hope she doesn't mind me butting in...

The American Academy of Pediatric Dentists would like all children to be seen as soon as the first tooth comes in really, or at least by age one.

Most dentists like to see them at 3, but I personally like them to come in with mom for a peak occasionally after they start getting teeth, and then (unless there is a problem) we start actually seeing them at 3.

My personaly experience is don't trust your pediatrician when it comes to your child's teeth, they don't know much.
post #63 of 96
Well, I'll butt in again

It is generally true that kids are better behaved when they come back alone. But if you got the vibe that something was wrong you should trust your instincts and you should keep looking, you have to be comfortable not the hygienist..

I personally prefer most children to come back alone but we play it by ear and make that decision on a child to child basis as well, not automatically assuming that they'll be better alone. It is always discussed with the parents first. We are also set up so that the parents can pull up a chair right outside the room and outside the child's line of vision, but where they can see everything that's going on. I wouldn't have it any other way.
post #64 of 96
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The American Academy of Pediatric Dentists would like all children to be seen as soon as the first tooth comes in really, or at least by age one.
Sorry, but I am not going to take my one year old to a dentist to be freaked out. I will still wait until age three for the reasons stated above
post #65 of 96
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Originally posted by SomedayMom
Well, I'll butt in again

It is generally true that kids are better behaved when they come back alone.
IMO they are probably more scared without a parent and less likely to act that out because there's nobody familiar to act out too. That doesn't = better behaved to me. I'm sure there are some kids that are just trouble makers that give you a hard time, but I don't think most kids are that way. I've had bad dental experiences and there's no way I'm not going to be there for my children to make sure that doesn't happen to them. None of my kids have ever given the dentist any problems anyway.
post #66 of 96
And as the parent DD, that's perfectly your judgement to make, but for those that would like to go earlier with a good ped. dentist, or just cooperative adult dentist, there may not be a need to be "freaked out"...they can sit on your lap while the dentist takes a peek, the kid plays with the equipment, and not do any routine cleanings etc., until they're older. I know a 3 yr old who had root canals and extractions, and had to have spacers to hold open the gaps for his permament teeth. He, now age 11, still has a slight speech impediment since he was missing his front teeth for so long while he was learning to talk. That was an awful experience I would like to avoid - starting with prevention at home of course! Most kids never have an experience like that. The parents, my friends, didn't think there was a problem until it was very far advanced since they believed the ped who told them to go at age 3.

I guess I'd rather have the dentist be a pleasant, non-scary, non-painful thing first, so it's not a scary new unfamiliar experience at the same time something more uncomfortable would need to be done. You know your own child best...mine loves new people and new situations, so I think she'd love the dentist! Hopefully, with prevention at home, we can avoid any owie stuff.
post #67 of 96
They can sit on your lap? That would be cool. I am just worried we will get a jerk of a dentist and I'll have to knock some of HIS teeth out (j/k).

I do like the idea of the dentist being a normal nonscary part of life and going early on would make a big difference in that.

I don't think Kailey would mind seeing a dentist, but if he turned out to be a jerk I would be afraid of that experience ruining it.

My ped suggested 3 because of the wiggly issue and her being to young to understand what is going on. I love my PED and respect his advice. He is totally kid friendly and openminded to all things. In fact he was the one would suggested not getting some of our vaccines He is also pr bfing and pro anything else I want for Kailey. The guy is like putty
post #68 of 96
The variation in dentists seem huge. Some won't even let you be in the room! I would NEVER do that. My dentist (adult) is very laidback and said they'd do it that way (lap) when she was really little. - how else would she stay still? no seatbelts! It's a small homey practice (1 receptionist, 1 hygenist, 1 asst and the dentist) and it looks not super-medical. I have friends who go to ped dentist where it's decorated in a kid -friendly way and they have toys, videos, special kid-flavored/scented stuff for procedures, etc. So I have *heard* that it's nicer with pediatric dentists. I would definitely interview them first. Some mamas here (particularly ones with state insurance) have had trouble finding a nice dentist. If my child needed something major and was going to be anesthetized, I would want to be there when they gave the medication and when they were finishing at the very least...but just a quick exam to make sure things are ok is all I'm anticipating.

Basically, a dentist who loves kids is a necessity. Kids are very curious, esp about themselves, and a lot of dental stuff is education. So a dentist who shows them pictures, stuff in the mirror, demonstrates, explains, etc. I definitely know 2 yo who would get something out of a visit when shown in an age-appropriate way....so I'd think of it as an expensive field trip. (but cheap in the long run!)
post #69 of 96
Ok, now you got me wanting to take her to the dentist LOL!

She LOVES brushing her teeth and I think with the right dentist she would have a ball!

We can go to any dentist we choose and then my husbands company reembursts us.

I think I'll look in the phone book or call my ped for a reference.

THanks Clarity
post #70 of 96
I start them before they are 2 so they are used to the setting and comfy with going there. Nice to be friends with dentist before he ever has to do any 'work'. Little ones lay on my lap and or sit and watch my teeth get checked first. The hygenist is very good with kids and always takes a polaroid of them to hold and look at and they can pick from some pretty crazy sunglasses to wear. The kids LOVE the cheap plastic toys and the floss they give out.
My 2 year old loves to floss and show off in the dentists' big mirror. It is a very positive experience for them. We have 4 and they get their teeth cleaned about every 8 months, so we are in that office enough the kids do not stress out a bit.
I however went in there last week to learn I need 2 crowns and a composite filling asap. Seems that I have not had MY teeth cleaned since I was last pregnant and there must be some truth to the old wives tale about losing a tooth for each preganancy.. we do not have dental insurance so I put off going myself because of the cost mostly.
I am anal about getting the kids in because my family history is rotten baby teeth and I have every back tooth almost filled. I am a queen now so many crowns lol
post #71 of 96
That's exactly what I meant

We have the kids come in with mom, sit on her lap, make them giggle, take a looksee, and no more. It shouldn't be an experience where they get freaked out and it really doesn't matter if they are wiggly at all. Lets the kiddos get used to us, and lets us see if there might be something going on. We want the kids to be comfortable coming to us, even maybe think that it's fun... Most of us dentists who are willing to see a little one though, do it b/c we really love it, and are therefore usually pretty good with them. The other ones will usually tell you to wait or take them to a pediatric dds. We don't charge anything for these visits either, happy visits plain and simple

I really didn't mean to down your PED who sounds awesome. But even the best of them are not trained with teeth, and I don't agree with that particular piece of advice.
post #72 of 96
I didn't think you were putting down my PED, just ME! LOL!

I agree the PED should stick with what they know, or claim to know anyway, and leave the teeth to the pros
post #73 of 96
Oh my, I'm so sorry you thought that I was putting you down Absolutely not. I truly apologize that that's how I came off
post #74 of 96
Oh NO, I was being sarcastic!
post #75 of 96
Yeah, peds say co-sleeping is dangerous, always vax, give lousy breastfeeding advice, CIO, etc...so this is just one more area where I ignore them. *sigh* I plan to start trying some of the home treatment that this months mothering article on cavities suggested, too.

Oh, if you have any local mama friends that might be a good source for dentist referrals too!
post #76 of 96
Your child is the customer. If s/he wants you there, or seems to (and who would be better able to interpret the signs than you), the hygienist will just have to deal with it. I, for one, would not feel comfy going into a strange room with a stranger 5 times my size, to do something that has been very scary in the past and that involves things that I usually have nothing to do with.

And what AnnMarie said. I would probably also "behave," but out of fear not calmness. Sounds like a Keep Looking Around situation to me!
post #77 of 96
Our ped dentist *expects* parents to come back into the room. They have a bay, rather than individual rooms, so there are lots of people around. They also have video games like centipede, and a nintendo for when kids are gettings meds in prep for dental work. I have to say that he is wonderful. He sings to the kids during exams (winnie the pooh, barney, whatever), his motto is "whatever it takes" to keep them happy and positive about the experience. Ds had to have several cavities filled a couple of weeks ago under GA at the hospital; before hand, when he came to check on us, last minute info, etc he brought ds a stuffed animal. As the meds were taking effect, that kept his attn so that he didn't even notice when he was going down the hall for the gas and IV meds. He was just as happy ad content as could be.

We drive 2 1/2 hours to see this man, he is so good. He also does beautiful work, too. If you are near the Dallas, Ft. Worth area, I can get you his info

Carrie

edited to add: I have never in any of our visits seen a child act up or be scared, crying or nervous in the office. Despite the fact that he has a lot of special needs clients who have anxiety disorders, previous traumatic dental stuff, oral aversions, autism, etc. One time when ds tripped as he came in and cried a second or two, all the staff popped right up to make sure he was okay and not upset about coming in.
post #78 of 96
DD goers to a ped dentist and has been since before her 3rd birthday due to decay. They do prefer the kids alone, although I have done both. A friend wants to bring her son their but said she wanted to be with him. I told her if the ytell you NO, the ycan be pushy, LEAVE. DD loves this dentist (I HATE much of the staff for other reasons) but she says she can't understand why some kids cry (and this day she had gotten 3 fillings!) She is 5 and we are very open. In the beginning I stood by the door and watched at a distance, as time went on I decided waiting was ok. But if they EVER denied me I'd be out.

Follow instincts, and if they say no way, then move on. But if the yexplain their reasons and you are still not in agrement, the yshould gladly let you stand by!!
post #79 of 96
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Originally posted by queencarr
rather than individual rooms, so there are lots of people around.

Ours is like this too. There are shelves and cabinets separating the "rooms", but you can see from one to the other. At first I thought it was odd, but now I think it adds a sense of security. If something should happen there are people all around that would hear you screaming for help. :LOL

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Ds had to have several cavities filled a couple of weeks ago under GA at the hospital; before hand, when he came to check on us, last minute info, etc he brought ds a stuffed animal. As the meds were taking effect, that kept his attn so that he didn't even notice when he was going down the hall for the gas and IV meds. He was just as happy ad content as could be.
Now THAT's a good dentist!
post #80 of 96
I always go back with him. Once (maybe 9 mo. ago) he was particularly poorly behaved, and the hygentist told him if he didn't shape up I would have to leave. He did a little better after that. The next time we went I was with him the whole time and he did perfectly. BTW, we've been going there for almost 2 years now, so he really knows the routine by now.
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