Still not really feeling pg....

[ellymay]

I don't understand why I don't feel pg yet, I mean I am having a hard time
feeling attached bc I don't really feel that there is a baby in there. I do feel
it move quite often but IDK what my problem is! This really bothers me bc I
am almost 14 weeks and I am not feeling really attached to this baby yet still I mean I could kind of understand a few weeks ago but why am I not now?
I feel like I am already being a bad momma by not feeling like this little child
is a part of me yet. I am sure hopeing that this will change when I really start
feeling kick with my hand. I guess I am just wierd. It just hasn't sunk in yet that this is real I guess. By this time with ds I was already showing real good
and only sometimes do I even look pg. I don't even feel pg other than when
I am puking my gutts out in the morning. IDK sorry to be wining but I really
needed to get this out.

[luckylady]

Well for me it's hard to be attached to something/someone I can't see and don't know yet, but that's just me. Even after DD was born I didn't feel attached - I felt like, when is this babies mother going to come and pick her up? It took me a while.

This one I still don't feel particularly attached but I DO feel like I am pregnant!

Don't worry - you are normal. Everyone deals with things differently. Why do you think there are 1 billion books on 1 subject all with a different point of view?

[Unreal]

I rarely ever 'feel' pregnant until late 2nd/early 3rd trimester...

it does kick in later...but honestly this time around I'm enjoying being able to feel kind of normal for a while...

other than feeling like I'm already waddling when I have to go potty really bad

[zonapellucida]

HMMM I don't know that I ever feel attached until the end of pg.

[ellymay]

I am just feeling really depressed today. I wish I could take my antidepressant when I am pg but you can't and the kind you can doesn't work for me. I have been crying most of the morning so IDK what my prob is just horomones I guess.

[ellymay]

The only reason the unattached part bothers me is bc I have always felt totally attached with my other 2 the second I found out and this time I don't.

[zonapellucida]

Being depressed could be why....can I ask what antidepressant you are on? I am taking 5 HTP in place of mine in order to keep myself from completely going off the deep end..

[Peppamint]

Originally Posted by ellymay

The only reason the unattached part bothers me is bc I have always felt totally attached with my other 2 the second I found out and this time I don't.

I am the same way Elly. This pregnancy has been different from the get-go though. I went through a really bad couple of days where I was sure I wasn't pg and I was waiting for mean ol' AF to show, then I was having the super faint barely there vertical line to just barely look like a plus if I stared really hard even after AF was late. I've been much sicker m/s-wise this pregnancy and yet I still feel a bit disconnected. I think it is partly because I'm not feeling regular movements just yet and my life is more full than it was with my first two pgs. KWIM? I'm already caring for two kids, one dog, one cat, and one hubby everyday, so until poor baby makes him/herself more known he or she will be a little bit of an afterthought.

This baby is VERY much wanted, but since this pg has been so different and my life is so full right now I think I'm just taking awhile to adjust this time.

[Unreal]

hmm

maybe you are like me...and are already pulling your hair out with the two already running around and haven't had 2 seconds to stop and feel pregnant?

I've been really overwhelmed this time around--no naps for me, hardly enough sleep at night.

My dh is gone for work when we get up in the morning...and while he gets home at around 3:30 or so, he is in bed at 8. His days off are sporadic and seem like such a waste. He sleeps late and still has to crash early to get up the next day.
So...most of the time I sit around and wonder how this is better than when I was a single parent (of course it is...it is just frustrating)

I guess I just try to deal with it all one day at a time.
I'm really hoping for a girl this time--but I don't want to hope for a girl, because then when maybaby is a boy.........
But the idea of one more messy boy dripping pee in the bathroom

Maybe put on some good music (loud enough to drown out the fighting of the other kids) and a bowl of your favorite junky treat?

ugh....my keyboard is being taken over by ds2

just know, you aren't alone

[Peppamint]

Lauren- you need a big hug and a venti latte with a double shot of espresso (that's my version of a stiff drink ).

Works like charm... except Starbucks is 30 minutes from me.

[ellymay]

Michelle, Lauren - I think you are both probably right I just don't have anytime to myself at all bc I am constantly taking care of the others and when I get a minute I
just want to go to sleep not think about being pg.....I was on effexor tablet 75mg before I started ttc and went off of it bc my doc said it was best I get off of it before I started ttc or while I was at the beginning so I did an I havn't really had any
problems with depression til here lately I have just felt sad alot IDK what has brought it on though other than just being really wore out and dh and I not getting anytime together and we are bicering alot over stupid stuff bc we are both frustrated alot. I jsut want so bad to feel close to this one like the others but I think it probably will take giving birth for that to happen.

[Sydnee]

Oh hun, you are sooooo not alone!! I feel so awful just because this wasn't a planned pregnancy, so it's been hard for me to feel attatched. I know once I start feeling regular movements, it will seem more real. But now I just feel fat. Anyhoo, hugs to you mama, we're here for you!!!

[eorr]

You really are not alone! I have wanted to get pg for over a year - read tons of books/literature, waited until DH was closer to ready, waited 'til I finished my masters, felt so excited and so ready to start trying this fall. I was elated when I took the hpt. But since then I have not felt attached at all. I feel depressed and sad, scared, worried. DH is not excited either (he's just not really the type)- I think it will just take time. So while this was totally planned and very much desired, I have to just believe that the other life changes that occured (job-wise, etc.) and the hormone shift with the sickness and all the other pg nonsense has just taken the excitement out of me. I guess I don't really have your situation, in that I don't have kids to care for, but I suppose that my other jobs keep me busy enough during the day and our lack of money make me feel like I can't pamper myself the way I want, and DH isn't able to take up the slack.
Just wanted to let you know that there are others struggling out there. Take care, mamma. Put on some great music and dance the blues away with your darlings.