I currently work at home 25 or so hours a week. My husband and I are CD ing our son currently, and we dont use a service, we wash at home. It dosnt take long for us to deal w/it at all. I throw the dirty parts in a h20 proof laundry sack, and then wash every other day (or so). I lay them out to dry over night, then in the am, haul them upstairs and throw the whole mess in the top drawer of the dresser. No big whoop. 10 mins extra, if that. Simple.
We actually kept our litle man in disposables for about 4 or 5 months. Then at a friends house for dinner, ( hi "gretasmommy!") Andrea was showing me her system of Fuzzibunz, and how it worked. I took one look at the fleece on her daughters bum and thought "hell, thats got to be better for my little man than picking silicone balls off his little pecker in the AM after an all night pee-a-thon in a disposable".
Initially, I wasnt sure it would be something we could afford to do, FBs arent the cheapest out there. But, I really liked the fleece idea. DH and I sat down w/a calculator and figured that at the rate we were going w/disposables, if we made the switch to FB's we'd break even sooner than later. So we ordered some, and we love 'em. We did have some probs at night w/leakage in FB's which is a nasty prob, esp. since we are currently cosleeping. (We just dont own that many pairs of sheets!) We were kind of not sure what to do at that point- quit the family bed? Not an option at this point for us. (Little Man sleeps much better in our bed than in his "cribbie". In our bed he sleeps more soundly and, better yet, for 10-12 hours. WAHOO!!! So quitting the family bed wasnt a choice we considered for long.) We ended up keeping him in FBs during the day and doing 'sposables at night. Which was ok, but we felt like there had to be a better way to stuff the FBs so we'd get to keep our good nights sleep as well as our dry sheets. We are currently experimenting with hemp inserts of some kind-I dont recall where they came from. So far so good.
Anyway, for a long time we owned 12 FBs, and 24 or so inserts. We did a load every other day. THe fleece wicked the pee right away and I found I didnt have to change the actual FB each time. We just got some more FBs in a size large, and now we could theoretically do less wash-, ie every third day- but I dont really want them all to start to stink, so we will continue to do a load every other day, or as needed.
You ask about feeling guilty-
What do I feel guilty about? Using that much water. I rationalize it by thinking of my sister-in-law and her hubby who are renovating a barn in upstate NY, and currently have no indoor plumbing and get a shower 1x a week. Im using their extra water that they dont use. Did I feel guilty using 'sposables? Sometimes. Do I feel guilty using extra water to wash the FBs? Sometimes. But in the long run, the cloth diapers are a better choice for us, and I am really happy to be using them.
(i love that banana guy!)