|So if he was only a year old, he would've met your parents only once. How do you think HE would feel, not you, not your parents, but a 1 yr old baby, about SUDDENLY being without his mama, and left in the care of people who are strangers TO HIM. The fact that they are thousands of miles away and would've only seen him once makes it seem harsher to me, than with grandparents who a child sees often enough to "know" them somewhat.
I voted no! I think 1 yrs old is way to young to be taken away from home and parents. If the family lives with the grandparents, I can see the parents going away, since the baby would still be in the familiar place with familiar people, but being sent away from home and parents at such a young age, would be cruelty to a baby, imo, regardless of how much the parents trusted the grandparents.
Ok, I am trying not to overeact, but...You know nothing about me or my family. I stated my opinion, unrealistically thinking I would not be personally flamed for that since this was a poll based opinions requested thread.
As it happens I work and DH is SAHD. I had to leave DS for two weeks before he was 12mo. and I hated every minute of it. He however, did just fine. My parents love their grandson so much that they would be over here constantly if they could be. However, they work for FEMA and have been a little busy IYKWIM. I am proud of them, they do a lot to help people rebuild their lives.
I cannot quit my job, My parents cannot quit theirs. I love, respect, and trust them. If in the future it comes up with the next GC I would not offer, but if they asked I stick to my original gut feeling. My DC will not suffer with his GP's and it would not be "cruelty" to let them spend time with him.
***edited to add: I try not to judge any one here, I state my opinion and am interested in reading about others. It irks me that someone here would accuse me of being willing to be "cruel" to my son.