Would you send your 1 yr old on vacation for a WEEK with your parents w/o you? - Page 4

[AugustLia23]

I wish I could've voted h*ll no! But I couldn't so I simply voted no. At one a baby is still nursing for most of his nourishment. What a harsh way to wean them, sending them away from you for a whole week. Babies at that age don't understand why they are being left without their parents either. Also I just don't trust that my parent's/IL's would feed him to my satisfaction and I am also pretty sure I would come back to a fully vaxxed baby, which I do not want. So no on all sides of that ? .

[CryPixie83]

Originally Posted by joandsarah77

I wish. I never made enough milk. And yes that was with pumping, fenugreek (herbal) and Motilium (medication to boost milk) So he's bottle fed. I'm probably not as crunchy as some around here as my kids are not clingy, man there so social that they would go off with a one eyed green hairy thing. Thank God there are none around here . Plus they pretty much sleep anywere, and we don't co-sleep. Ok you can all shoot me now.

Please, don't think I was judging you because of that, I was truly curious. to you, you tried to give you little one mama milk, you should be proud of yourself for that! You worked a lot harder (from what you told us) than most moms today.

[joandsarah77]

Thanks. I'm probably over sensitive, but I don't like to think about my breast feeding failure, it's too depressing.

[sarah_bella1050]

OMG! There is NO WAY in h*ll I could send my BABY on vacation without me. My parents don't raise dd, I do! A week is FOREVER. That is my initial response, and I know that I am a bit over the top. Everyone does not raise their dc like I do, but come on a whole week?

[Rox5266]

Would never work, my ds still nurses and has never spent a night without me in his life, and is not ready to either. He wakes at least 4 times a night and only I can get him back to sleep, since he still nurses. Sometimes I wish I could leave him overnight w/my parents, but I probably would sleep terribly w/out him. Can't get good sleep w/him, but can't sleep w/out him.

[radish]

uhhhh - NO

[dumpsterdivamama]

What I don't get... and maybe someone has said this, I only read the first page of responses... is WHY would they want to take my 1yo on VACATION?? I don't get it at all... it makes sense for the question to be, "Would you go on a one week vacation and leave your 1yo with your parents?" My answer would still be no, but what grandparents take a 1yo on vacation?

I left my 3 year old at home with dh for 4 days, while I took our 1yo with me out of state to see a friend. Things were fine while I was gone, but when I got back, it was REALLY hard. It obviously had a big effect on her and her trust of me for a while. I don't think I'd do it again. And she was 3!!

[CountryMom2e]

Absolutely not. At 1 yr DS was nursing 6 times a day, including twice at night. But beside that, he was still very much a baby.

He is nearly two and we are just getting ready to perhaps have him spend the night with his grandparents - ONE night. I'm trying to figure out what we're going to do when little tupelo comes along - DS will be 27 mo - and I will likely need to be in the hospital for at least 2 or 3 nights.

I cannot imagine being away from him for a week. I can't imagine any mama, nursing or no, thinking that would be ok?

[The Lucky One]

Even if somehow I knew my 1 year old would be OK without me for a week and that my parents would be OK with the situation, I could not bear to be without my child for a week. I could not be without my 3.75 year old for a week. I would not want to be without my dh for a week.

No way. Not in a trillion years.

[~Nikki~]

Even if somehow I knew my 1 year old would be OK without me for a week and that my parents would be OK with the situation, I could not bear to be without my child for a week. I could not be without my 3.75 year old for a week. I would not want to be without my dh for a week.

No way. Not in a trillion years.

Exactly what I was going to post. My parents want to take my 2.5 year old for a week, around Christmas time. I was shocked that they would even ask (they have a very AP style, and should know better!) My daughter loves them, and would probably have a great time. Probably. It's the small chance that she would break down and miss mommy or daddy, with us being 3 hours away, that keeps me from allowing it. I'm sure I could cope, if it was something she truly wanted to do. But I don't think she'll be ready for an "alone trip" for a few more years, at least.

[guest9969]

DH and I just left our 2 y.o. with my in-laws for *one night* for our fifth anniversary. By breakfast the next morning we were ready to go get him. No way could I do a week, even at 2. I'm not sure I could do it by 3. At age 1, forget about it...

[bri276]

nope I'll still be bf'ing and honestly I don't see the advantage on either side. DD doesn't need to be separated from me for that length of time, I'd be traumatized to be away from her for that long, and her grandparents are certainly welcome to visit with us, there's no reason why I shouldn't be able to accompany any trip that they would desire their grandchild to be with them on.

it bothers me when people want time with the baby without me present. it just gives me an annoyed feeling. guess what people? I'm the mama!

[mamachandi]

I wouldn't leave my kids anywhere without me or dh for more than a few hours (perhaps for the day if it was w/one of us). My oldest dd's first sleepover was at 7 for one night,thats it. she is now 11 and my il's are planning on taking her on a cruise when she turns 13 for a week. That will be the first time she will be away from us for more than a one night sleepover and we have to plan it years in advance so that we can warm up to the idea

[NiteNicole]

I wouldn't have a problem with it. My parents live near me and we see them daily. Overnights are not a big deal. If I don't mind, my kid enjoys it, and my parents are happy - why not?

[Soundhunter]

Originally Posted by pumpkinsmama

I'm with the minority on this one. I vote yes, but maybe that is because I am thousands of miles away from my parents and we only see them once a year. They did a great job raising me so I feel confident they would take great care of DS. Of course I would go nuts, but I think that my parents love DS so much, and it makes me sad that they do not get to spend more time with him.

But, I would go with them if at all possible. The only way I would send him with them by himself is if there was no way DH or I could go too.

So if he was only a year old, he would've met your parents only once. How do you think HE would feel, not you, not your parents, but a 1 yr old baby, about SUDDENLY being without his mama, and left in the care of people who are strangers TO HIM. The fact that they are thousands of miles away and would've only seen him once makes it seem harsher to me, than with grandparents who a child sees often enough to "know" them somewhat.

I voted no! I think 1 yrs old is way to young to be taken away from home and parents. If the family lives with the grandparents, I can see the parents going away, since the baby would still be in the familiar place with familiar people, but being sent away from home and parents at such a young age, would be cruelty to a baby, imo, regardless of how much the parents trusted the grandparents.

[Smithie]

Y'know, my parents live thousands of miles away too, but my ds has had a strong bond with them right from birth. I'm thinking that my mother and I sound and smell very similar? Leaving ds with them (for an evening) has never been even a slight issue, whereas he has sometimes been sad when I left him with a nonrelated caregiver or my ILs.

Anyhow, I voted "yes" since ds was on goat milk by 12 months (breast surgery, turned out I was cancer-free) and he slept through the night in his crib, but I think he was a pretty unusual baby and has an unusual bond with my folks. When I had to wean and he went on a cosleeping strike and moved to the crib, we discussed going on a vacation around 12 mos., but decided that WE wouldn't enjoy it, even though we enjoy the heck out of a night out and don't worry about ds at all if he's with my folks. If there had been some compelling reason to travel, though, we would have done it and he would have been just fine.

We are expecting #2 in June, and I assume that she will nurse much longer, so leaving her will be a moot point. I am seriously thinking about a vacation when SHE weans, though. My cousin has her folks come to her house and stay for a week when she vacations, and the kids LOVE it. No unsettling trip or new beds or unfamilar potties, just special time with the grandparents.

[cutekid]

I said nope, NEVER. I have left my DS for the evening about 3 times, everytime with my mother. HE LOVES HER. Any time I am on the phone he has to have the phone to make sure it isn't her on the other end. He's only 16 months old and gets excited when I talk about her coming to see him. They only get to see each other about once a month, but even with this bond there is NO WAY i'd leave him for a week.

[newmommy]

No.

[Starflower]

I've never even spent a night away from DD and she's 2-1/2.

We still nurse (nak, in fact) and we co-sleep. I don't think any of us would be OK with that. My MIL was disappointed because I wouldn't let DD spend one night at her house without us.

DD loves her grandparents though and they all live out of state so when she's older, she might want to have some time with them.

[pumpkinsmama]

So if he was only a year old, he would've met your parents only once. How do you think HE would feel, not you, not your parents, but a 1 yr old baby, about SUDDENLY being without his mama, and left in the care of people who are strangers TO HIM. The fact that they are thousands of miles away and would've only seen him once makes it seem harsher to me, than with grandparents who a child sees often enough to "know" them somewhat.

I voted no! I think 1 yrs old is way to young to be taken away from home and parents. If the family lives with the grandparents, I can see the parents going away, since the baby would still be in the familiar place with familiar people, but being sent away from home and parents at such a young age, would be cruelty to a baby, imo, regardless of how much the parents trusted the grandparents.

Ok, I am trying not to overeact, but...You know nothing about me or my family. I stated my opinion, unrealistically thinking I would not be personally flamed for that since this was a poll based opinions requested thread.

As it happens I work and DH is SAHD. I had to leave DS for two weeks before he was 12mo. and I hated every minute of it. He however, did just fine. My parents love their grandson so much that they would be over here constantly if they could be. However, they work for FEMA and have been a little busy IYKWIM. I am proud of them, they do a lot to help people rebuild their lives.
I cannot quit my job, My parents cannot quit theirs. I love, respect, and trust them. If in the future it comes up with the next GC I would not offer, but if they asked I stick to my original gut feeling. My DC will not suffer with his GP's and it would not be "cruelty" to let them spend time with him.

***edited to add: I try not to judge any one here, I state my opinion and am interested in reading about others. It irks me that someone here would accuse me of being willing to be "cruel" to my son.