So interesting to read the responses here!
If I were responding when dd1 was a year old, back in a different life, I would have been a heck no mama!
But now life's changed. The court has ordered a one week exclusive visit for both dds when dd2 will be 21 mos old. And to work up to that, we've been doing some overnights. (probably won't be a one week exclusive visit, ex and I are trying to work out the details, but you better bet I cried my eyes out for months after the B!tch of a judge did that! It was more than he was even freaking asking for! She had it in for me because I was an ap/extended breastfeeding mom...grr...profanity done.
So actually last night dd1 4yo and dd2 19mo went camping w/ grandma, they had a blast and I finished a paper that was due this morning! So yea's were heard all around!
I would never have thought about doing it with dd1, but now I've learned a little more. Shhh...secrets ahead...babies who nurse a lot when co-sleeping with mom often don't need to nurse with others, they just roll over and go back to sleep. Toddlers who are busy and interested can have some independence, not too much! but some, and grow and learn from it... Little sisters sure want to do EVERYTHING that big sisters do, and are actually pretty okay with doing it when there's self-imposed peer pressure involved.
Anyway, long story! So my dd1 has been away 5 nights now total, 1 night with dad, then later 2 nights with dad, then 1 night camping with grandma 2x. I think she could handle 2 or 3 nights with no problems (and lots of EBM! I'm still pumping away to make sure there's enough for her!) And she seems to adjust fine when she gets back, actually my 4yo has a little more trouble almost, gets teary eyed, like today said, "Mama, I'm about to cry because I'm so glad to be home with you. Are you about to cry because you're so glad to have me home?" And later, "Yea! I get to sleep with you tonight mama! I'm so glad to be back in my own bed!" I think she's hamming it up a little, but she's a cancer, so sensitive.