WAS - another plea...NOW -discussion about Diapering - Page 7

[Sustainer]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

No, someone actually said that on the S&T board instead. Sad huh?

Let's be clear here: Someone actually said that someone else SUCKS because they use towels or Gerber prefolds?

[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

I'm sorry, but to me, rabid consumerism is very anti-nfl- tread gently, etc.

It's actually also very much against everything PeggyO, the owner of this site, has to say about consumerism in her essays, articles, and books. Hey - my English major self thinks maybe we should all read them and discuss them.

[Sustainer]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

No I can't. Although I seem to recall being called a troll when I supported a mama who was happy she had a prefold and a snappi.

See my previous post.

[AngelBee]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

(sorry, that's the only no smilie here. )

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[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by mama2kyla

I guess we have to start saving threads/posts attacking those buying diapers that arent prefolds... it never occured to me to that or ammunition later.

To be honest, I didn't actually intentionally save them. I get the replies in my emails, and my email box is horribly full. I was going through it, and there they were.

And I am not using it as 'ammo' but to please request that BOTH sides stop pretending things didn't occur when they did, or we're never going to get anywhere with this but running round in circles.

[stacey0402]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

Um. I have replies that were made to particular threads saved, in black and white 'fact' form. So please do not imply it is not a fact. When it IS a fact that it occurred on BOTH sides. I'm trying to be honest and find a middle ground about it all. Can you try to do so please?

I think that's exactly what I'm trying to do as well. Be honest. I have spent a great deal of time in the Diapering forum and I have never seen anybody make fun of a frugal diapering mom. I have seen the few instances brought up here in this thread and I don't think saying that "it happened" tells the whole story.

[zexplorers]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

I'm sorry, but to me, rabid consumerism is very anti-nfl- tread gently, etc. I don't think spending spending 25 dollars on a diaper is bad. I don't think spending a particular amount of money is necessarily bad. It is the cut-throat attitude, being annoyed if your children make you miss a stocking, etc etc.

I used to feel like I was on a cd board on babycentre.

If I need a diaper for my child and choose hyena over mass produced then that is not rabid consumerism.

I think we can all agree that not attending to your children's needs for any reason is not acceptable whether it's trying to get a hyena diaper or playing internet games or surfing the web, etc.... I believe anyone who posted that they were upset that they missed out on something because of their kids was probably joking....

I've never been to babycentre - too mainstream LOL!!

[fullofgrace]

Ah, but there lies the rub... according to the UA, we can't tell the whole story because we'd be talking old threads, and especially because many were removed.

[PatchyMama]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

It's actually also very much against everything PeggyO, the owner of this site, has to say about consumerism in her essays, articles, and books. Hey - my English major self thinks maybe we should all read them and discuss them.

PeggyO also refuses to come out and say that circ is wrong in all cases...

but even so not everyone who buys expensive diapers are rabid consumers. This site is made up of a broad spectrum of people. Maybe those who are here just for the diapers will learn something else about NFL? I know I did, i dont know that I would have found out about vaccines, CLW, etc if I hadnt been drawn here by the diapering board.

[the_lissa]

Originally Posted by Sustainer

I have practically lived in the diapering forum for the past year and a half and I have never once seen someone get criticized for using frugal dipes or for not using hyena dipes.


Are we back to this again? The ONLY reason that person was called a troll is because they seemed to be mocking hyenas. It was NOT because they were talking about a non-hyena diaper. That incident has been explained to death. People have ALWAYS asked questions about non-hyena diapers and have always received support in return. I have never even once seen anyone receive a negative response as a result of posting about a prefold or other frugal diaper. Anyone who spent any kind of time in the old forum the way it used to be knows that the very idea is ridiculous. Prefolds have ALWAYS been talked about enthusiastically ALL THE TIME by the members of the forum INCLUDING the hyenas.

There was not just one incident. I have been called a troll for just answering threads that aren't about hynea/prefold/etc

[stacey0402]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

It's actually also very much against everything PeggyO, the owner of this site, has to say about consumerism in her essays, articles, and books. Hey - my English major self thinks maybe we should all read them and discuss them.

see, this is where I see things differently. I don't see how paying somebody a living wage goes against Peggy's vision or is anti-nfl.

I'm not quoting you to single you out either, I just now saw this post from the previous poster in your reply.

[annettemarie]

I truly don't understand why some people insist on turning the reorganization of the diapering board into an us verses them issue. Is anyone being told that they cannot post certain things?

[cielle]

Originally Posted by zexplorers

If I need a diaper for my child and choose hyena over mass produced then that is not rabid consumerism.

I think that's the heart of the question other posters here have. How do you define "need" and when you do you have "enough"? And what are the moral and ethical implications of posting about the fact that you have "more than enough" in a forum where most users advocate non-consumerism and simple living?

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

There was not just one incident. I have been called a troll for just answering threads that aren't about hynea/prefold/etc

And even if the word troll isn't explicitly used, being accused of "coming out of the woodwork" to post only when there's "controversy," or that people who don't post "enough" shouldn't have a say is pretty much the same thing.

[the_lissa]

Originally Posted by stacey0402

see, this is where I see things differently. I don't see how paying somebody a living wage goes against Peggy's vision or is anti-nfl.

I'm not quoting you to single you out either, I just now saw this post from the previous poster in your reply.

Nevermind. It is not about the price tag. It is simply about the consumerism. If people don't see it, I can't explain it any further.

[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by Sustainer

Are we back to this again? The ONLY reason that person was called a troll is because they seemed to be mocking hyenas.

And this makes a point -- 'seemed to be'. The perception of something does not make it true. And the post was a mama saying 'look what I got!' with a pic of a prefold and snappi. That was IT. Generic. And she, and anyone saying they were happy for her, got ripped to shreds.

The first reactions and the first ACTIONS taken by the 'regular users' is the problem in this case, not the topics. We all need to be the AP mamas that we are and speak to the MAMAS posting these threads with love, and not attack based on a topic.



reworded that last paragraph. I typed too quickly.

[AngelBee]

Ummmm....I know some mamas who owns well over 100 prefolds and use Gerber pants.

Overly purchasing items can happen whether you use hyena, basic, or in between.

Also....alot of the hyena items retail used. They are used by many other babies. That is a plus. (EX: decorative wool longies can be passed on for generations even )

[the_lissa]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

And even if the word troll isn't explicitly used, being accused of "coming out of the woodwork" to post only when there's "controversy," or that people who don't post "enough" shouldn't have a say is pretty much the same thing.

Yeah exactly. I remember one thread in particular where a bunch of close knits mamas I know from a different community were posting on a thread, and some people made snide remarks about the "newbies" even though most of us had been there longer and had more posts than some of the people complaining about us.

[PatchyMama]

Originally Posted by cielle

I think that's the heart of the question other posters here have. How do you define "need" and when you do you have "enough"? And what are the moral and ethical implications of posting about the fact that you have "more than enough" in a forum where most users advocate non-consumerism and simple living?

but what may be more than enough for some, isnt for others. I know lots of mamas who have "more than enough" because it means each diaper gets washed less since there is so many to cycle through. That inturn leaves that diaper to last longer... and then it can be sent to another home to be reused.

[cielle]

Originally Posted by AngelBee

Ummmm....I know some mamas who owns well over 100 prefolds and use Gerber pants.

Overly purchasing items can happen whether you use hyena, basic, or in between.

Exactly but "overly purchasing" is celebrated only in the diapering forums.