WAS - another plea...NOW -discussion about Diapering - Page 4

[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by mama2kyla

And to be honest I wouldnt even mind that IF people posting in the show and tell forum were not continually being chastized by those who feel that forums isnt NFL enough.

I can agree with that, but if the flipside were true as well (unlike what I've seen in recent days), it would go a long way:

I wouldnt even mind that IF people posting in the show and tell forum were not continually being chastized by those who feel that diapers shown aren't hyena enough.

[the_lissa]

Originally Posted by Pynki

Ya know.

I like the split. I spend more time in diapering again now. It is more like it was when I joined. THere were fewer show and tell threads, and basic diapering questions got answered. I STOPPED posting when threads not pertaining to stockings got ignored and yes DID fall off the page.

I like the current arrangement. I like if I want to look at stashes I go to one place. If I want to talk about diapers, and how they fit, I go to the other.

Lots of things have changed at MDC over the years. I DO find it funny however that now because it's DIAPERING many people who don't or rarely venture out are all up in arms.

Warm Squishy Feelings..
Dyan

Me too.

I also like that now I don't have to worry about being called a troll if I ask a question about a non-hyena diaper, which was funny as half the people yelling troll had never been outside the diapering forum.

This board was so confusing when I first started out. i wish it had been this way then.


I also really like not having to wade through pages of threads that talk about stockings and stalkings way overpriced products, which is pretty anti-nfl.

[the_lissa]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

I can agree with that, but if the flipside were true as well (unlike what I've seen in recent days), it would go a long way:

I wouldnt even mind that IF people posting in the show and tell forum were not continually being chastized by those who feel that diapers shown aren't hyena enough.

Exactly.

[PatchyMama]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

I can agree with that, but if the flipside were true as well (unlike what I've seen in recent days), it would go a long way:

I wouldnt even mind that IF people posting in the show and tell forum were not continually being chastized by those who feel that diapers shown aren't hyena enough.

I guess we are seeing completely different things because never once have i seen that happen with the exception of threads that were started to bait and provoke those who do buy hyena diapers. If both sides could agree to cut it out things would be better, but those purchasing hyena diapers have been on the defensive because of sarcastic comments for a long time and were not the first to start the "battle" Its hard to just let that go.

I dont know how to make both sides let it go.

[stacey0402]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

So the sewing WAHM is more worthy of support than the non-sewing WAHM? I thought the forum was all about supporting all the WAHMs?

that is not what anybody is saying.

I'll explain it like this...

I like dairy farmers. I don't support every dairy farmer. I choose to support the farmer that produces raw organic milk because I believe so deeply in what he is doing. Raw organic milk is not cheap, but it is a priority for me and my family so we make decisions that allow us to continue supporting this farmer.

My very nice neighbor sells Discovery Toys. I like her and I would like to support her, but I'm not going to buy plastic toys from her because we like natural products. My neighbor is passionate about staying home with her children and is educating her children on how to be good human beings. I like this about her, but I'm still not going to buy toys from her.

I'm not trying to be snarky or talk down to anybody (please don't take it that way). I just don't understand how my choices don't fit in with the MAIN Diapering forum. I don't understand why I have to run off to a special Diapering Subforum to talk about more pricey diapering solutions.

[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by mama2kyla

I guess we are seeing completely different things because never once have i seen that happen with the exception of threads that were started to bait and provoke those who do buy hyena diapers.

We must be, because, trying to remain vague... a mama posting a pic of her sweet babe in a ingeniuously-fashioned diaper is hardly an attempt to bait and provoke. Why would a mama want her babe's attire (and therefore the babe wearing it) criticized and belittled?

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

We must be, because, trying to remain vague... a mama posting a pic of her sweet babe in a ingeniuously-fashioned diaper is hardly an attempt to bait and provoke. Why would a mama want her babe's attire (and therefore the babe wearing it) criticized and belittled?

Well, obviously that person would be a troll.

[PatchyMama]

i believe one person replied to that thread sarcasticly (at least at the last point that i saw it)... many others of us (including myself) responded sincerely in appreciation. The whole forum shouldnt be held accountable because of one person's attitude right?

[fullofgrace]

Perhaps, but I certainly have not seen hoards of people on some sort of 'hyena-hunt' either. The fact is, disagreements of style may have taken place, by a mere handful of people, but the whole of both groups are being villainized.

I think the 'board split' organization is great. The two forums are great. The reactions and actions of a few members has been... less than great.

[zexplorers]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

I also really like not having to wade through pages of threads that talk about stockings and stalkings way overpriced products, which is pretty anti-nfl.

At the risk of beating a dead horse how is paying $25 for a handdyed, handsewn diaper made with organic materials by a woman making less than minimum wage per hour anti-nfl? I get a product I'm happy with ( and will pass on one day in one way or another) and I'm helping her stay home with her kids and put food on the table...... I'd much rather do that than buy products that were made overseas where the middleman gets all the profit.

[PatchyMama]

of course - I never said their were hoards. I fully acknowledge that the attacks have taken place on both sides and buy a handful of people on both sides. I just dont know what we as posters are supposed to do because the negative always garners more attention than the positive

[DaryLLL]

Originally Posted by mama2kyla

Now it feels like the "simple diapering" crowd is in the main forum and the "hyena diapering" is supposed to be in the subforum.That just creates division.

I disagree. I think it is more organized and I encourage the "hyenas" to post on both subfora.

Look how they reoraginzed Breastfeeding here, for another ex of a recent reshuffling for clarity of purpose. Some people mind change of any kind.

And to be honest I wouldnt even mind that IF people posting in the show and tell forum were not continually being chastized by those who feel that forums isnt NFL enough. I can understand how it is supposed to help organization, i just think it has added a very negative tone to the board and if anything has made it more of an "exclusive club" than it was when everyone happily posted together in one forum.

But they weren't all happy, is the thing. Lots of people were scared away from Diapering, by the hobbie$t$. That invisible army we hear about.

I admit, I acccidently recently came across a thread about an $85 piece of wool, and posted in kind of in a shocked manner. I just don't ususally pay attn to Diapering. I wasn't even aware of the board split or the huge recent controversy. I have just recently had my consciousness raised.

[spatulagirl]

Originally Posted by fullofgrace

Perhaps, but I certainly have not seen hoards of people on some sort of 'hyena-hunt' either. The fact is, disagreements of style may have taken place, by a mere handful of people, but the whole of both groups are being villainized.

Sorry. But as one who has been attacked on many occasions (including mean PMs) because of how I choose to diaper, I disagree with you.

Never once would I ever flame someone for how they diaper. It's stupid. And yet it has happened to me many many times.

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by spatulagirl

Sorry. But as one who has been attacked on many occasions (including mean PMs) because of how I choose to diaper, I disagree with you.

Never once would I ever flame someone for how they diaper. It's stupid. And yet it has happened to me many many times.

Wow, you're kidding? People send you nasty emails because of how you diaper? You should definitely report that.

[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by mama2kyla

I just dont know what we as posters are supposed to do because the negative always garners more attention than the positive

Actually, I'm seeing a ton of attention and many long thoughtful replies being shown to all the threads in diapering right now. There may be less total posts, but they have a lot of heartfelt words in them. One long post takes a lot more time to compose, so that's less time other posts can be mde.

As posters, we can keep on keeping on. Post positively and the rest will follow. Those who don't can have a chat with the mods and CM. KWIM?

[spatulagirl]

Originally Posted by the_lissa

I also like that now I don't have to worry about being called a troll if I ask a question about a non-hyena diaper, which was funny as half the people yelling troll had never been outside the diapering forum. .

Did that happen? Cuz that sucks if it did.

Originally Posted by the_lissa

I also really like not having to wade through pages of threads that talk about stockings and stalkings way overpriced products, which is pretty anti-nfl.

They aren't overpriced. Overprices is a Hummer or a fur coat. But organic diapers? Not overpriced. And last time I checked organic was more NFL then plastic and synthetics.

[spatulagirl]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

Wow, you're kidding? People send you nasty emails because of how you diaper? You should definitely report that.

I can't be bothered. It's lame But could you imagine me PMing someone and telling them they suck because they use towels or Gerber prefolds?

[zexplorers]

Originally Posted by DaryLLL

But they weren't all happy, is the thing. Lots of people were scared away from Diapering, by the hobbie$t$. That invisible army we hear about.

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[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by spatulagirl

Did that happen? Cuz that sucks if it did.

It really did. More than once. And that's all I'm saying... is that it has happened more than once on both sides. I have seen it go both ways. I'm not denying that. Just because it got pulled by a quick-thinking overworked mod (I feel for them. I've done that job other placs!) doesn't mean it didn't happen. kwim?

[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by spatulagirl

But could you imagine me PMing someone and telling them they suck because they use towels or Gerber prefolds?

No, someone actually said that on the S&T board instead. Sad huh?