Desperately needing advice - Page 2

[boomingranny]

what everyone said.

i wanted to re-iterate that lying to them is your best strategy. I also wanted to point out that your mom is emotionally blackmailing you. You may have low self-esteem but that can change and now would be the time. Protect your kids. I'm glad that your dh is supportive.

Good luck

[Suzetta]

Also, consider reading "Emotional Blackmail", it discusses how folks try to manipulate us using Fear, Obligation, and Guilt. A great read for anyone.

[Peony]

That guy sounds very, very scary. You are doing the right thing, keep your dc far away from him, trust yourself.

[Qestia]

I just want to add my voice and say please please please keep your daughter away from this man. Trust your instincts. Personally I'd keep her away from your mom as well because her statements about taking the kids away from you are absolutely horrifying--I'd move far far away if I were you. I was abused too, the last time, as a teenager, and told my mom, and she didn't believe me, and now I live far far away from her and am glad I do. Please please please protect your little girl.

[MsChatsAlot]

I know it is hard to have the family be mad at you, but you are doing the best thing by protecting your daughter. There is a reason you are feeling creepy around this guy. None of us know him and what you wrote creeped us out.

Everytime you feel weak and like you should give in, say to yourself. Which is worse? Being outcast or away from my family or having my child be sexually molested & violated? Keep reminding yourself that this really is a possibility and that you are the only protection she has right now. That will help you stand up for yourself and your family.

You are standing up to them for the first time and good for you for doing it. It is hard. I've had some hard life lessons like this and when I've gotten through them, I've been so much stronger as a person. I am so glad you have a dh that stands behind you as well.

You will figure this out and get through it and likely have more confidence. Sometimes these situations force us to move through our fears and because your family has always helped you be this way, maybe a break from them will help you learn to stand on your own.