Is it rude of me to suggest alone time with grandma?

[aprons_and_acorns]

My MIL will be visiting over the holiday weekend, and I think it would be fun for ds (15 months) to have some one-on-one alone time with her. Like if they went out on a "date" for lack of a better word. Actually I think it would be fun for me too, to have some time to clean up after the big turkey day.

Would it be rude for me to suggest this? Like I was fishing for a free babysitter? I know MIL loves spending time with our ds, but we are always around too.

I am quite sure that ds would be ok with the separation, because my MIL has a certain something about her that is very attractive to him. He never seems to be shy or clingy to me when she is around. He loves being with her.

So would it be rude of me to suggest the outing for just the two of them? I don't want to look like I just want a free sitter, but darn it, I really want a free sitter!

[stacyg]

I don't think it would be rude. She'd probably love the idea. My dad always wants to take my ds out to the park, lunch or to the toy store. He loves that "special" one on one time with him.
Even going for a walk would be something they could enjoy...
I say go for it!

[Sharlla]

I think it's an awesome idea! So many people don't like their kids getting alone time with their grandparents. What a breath of fresh air

[Ellien C]

I do this with my mom and have DH ask his mom if should would like some time alone with our DD. My mom says my DD is different when I'm around - When I'm around, it's the mommy show so that's all she wants. With the grandparents she gets an opportunity to explore new relationships. I try not to go out the first night, but after they've been here a few days and DD is used to them, I think it's useful.

[alegna]

I don't think it's rude. I'd OFFER though and not be offended if she's not interested.

-Angela

[bobica]

i do this often with my mom, but she lives upstairs i think it's great!

[aprons_and_acorns]

Originally Posted by bobica

i do this often with my mom, but she lives upstairs i think it's great!

You're lucky! I wish my ds had a nana he could see whenever he wanted.

I think I'll say something like this . . .

I think ds would enjoy having some "just me and nana time". Maybe you could even take him to (neighborhood bakery) and let him try whatever yummy treat he wants. Then when he wants to go there every time we walk by I'll say "Nana takes you there". It could become a really cute tradition. Or we could just go together if you want, but I think it would be fun for him to have you all to himself.

[crunchy_mama]

I don't think it is rude either; I think it is important to build that relationship. My mom and I were just talking about this last night. She was talking about how she want to build a relationship with Luke, I think she will appreciate the offer.

[shanagirl]

I think your idea is sweet (no pun intended, really). Just make sure you use that time to relax! I wouldn't expect more than an hour but if they wind up spending more time, great. If there is a park near or on the way to the bakery, a little time there, and the bakery, will be lovely.