Originally Posted by Avonlea
I We also use the Tv so that my husband and I can have sex. He drives truck, has no schedule and so i can't depnd on the usual " After the kids go to sleep" type sex..it is usually in the middle of teh day and so we save certain videos or shows for those times.
Dh said recently (after putting a video on for the kids for this purpose) that TV is a gift from God
He used to work an evening shift, so I know what you mean.
I also use it so I can shower in the mornings (now that the weather is getting colder, though, my skin can only take showering a few mornings a week, so it's not so bad) and occasionally if the boys are being rowdy when I'm trying to nurse the baby to sleep. And if it's the first day of my period and I just want to sit and not be disturbed.
I do think, though, that if I relied on it less and worked on teaching my kids to amuse themselves more, I wouldn't need it so much. Right now, I try to keep the tv/vcr/dvd player on the top shelf of our toy/craft/game cupboard, so I can't just turn it on. If it is away, the kids don't think of it so much and ask for it much less. Of course, we still have the computer for them to play on, I don't know if that's much better. Lately they've been into Study Dog, a learn to read thing, so I feel better about that.
One thing I try to do (though I'm not consistent enough with it yet) is daily "quiet minutes" time. After we've cleaned up from lunch, we do something on our own quietly for 15 mins (well, not the baby, though she often nurses during this time, and my 3.5 yo is just getting to be able to manage the whole 15 mins). I usually read, and my oldest (now 6) would look at a book (often a kids magazine, he would be choosing the story he wanted me to read after). Now he has some books that he reads to himself. I think having that time daily (ideally, lol) helps them realize that they *can* amuse themselves without tv or me being the main source of entertainment. One of my boys also was given the board game Trouble for his birthday, he and his brother play it suprisingly often, and it takes a while to play. Just so long as the 3.5 yo isn't tired or hungry, the games tend to go quite smoothly, and they have a good time playing. I also have a bunch of those "learning" card games, I see them at stores all the time -- crazy eights, alphabet go fish, math war, silly sentences, three-letter words, time and money, and such. I play them with the kids, and I've also taught my oldest solitaire versions of most of them. He can amuse himself with that for quite a while now with that, and generally the 3.5 yo leaves him alone. It isn't so much a matter of them needing something to do when I'm busy as it is a matter of them not being able to get along without my help. If I can find things for them to do separately, or something where they know how to take turns (like Trouble, the turns are short so no one gets bored, or computer games like Study Dog, where whoever is waiting for his turn likes watching the other guy play), the momless time goes much more smoothly.