I went in for my big u/s on Monday. Thank G-d everything looks great with the baby....
But then the dr (not my Ob, who I love, but the maternal-fetal geneticist who oversees the u/s and other stuff) starts in with "You're still nursing? Dr. W [my ob] didn't tell you to stop?" (This all came about because we were joking that my LMP was the same for both pregnancies.) I said, "No. In fact, I nursed my daughter in front of him at one of my early appointments, and he didn't say a word. [Have I mentioned how cool he is?
I am VBACing with him.] And a few weeks later I asked him if I needed to take calcium supplements for the three of us." [His answer was no, not necessary, which, as it turns out, agrees with kellymom.com. How much do I like this guy???]
She seemed stunned, but said, "Oh, well, I totally trust him." I asked if she thought the baby (the one inside
) was not getting enough, was on the small side, etc. Both she and the tech (a woman and mother of at least 2 also) said no, baby was a good size (14 oz, approx), measured exactly on target for 20 weeks (I had the u/s at 20w0d). But then they both started in "mother to mother" on how I should wean dd before the baby comes so she "won't regress." [How could they possibly know how I parent? All they know about me is that I am still nursing a 17 month old. That's IT!] At this point I had pretty much stopped listening (dh had wisely tuned out 5 min before and was just looking at the baby), but I just kept thinking, "Regress to WHAT? Being a nursing toddler? That's what she is!" Sheesh, if I have to spend a lot of time nursing them both before dd loses interest and goes back to 3-4 times a day, what's it to them? (or my mom or whoever)--As I tried to explain, I am a SAHM! That's my job! (The dr and tech also seemed to think, incorrectly, that nutritionally the milk would favor the toddler and give the nb the short shrift....I am so tempted to fax them pages from kellymom.com) I seem to be the only person on earth (other than dh 
and my LLL pals) who seems to think that tandem nursing could ease the transition for dd, instead of making her jealous and unreasonable. I am SO grateful I still have milk now I can't even explain it in words. (She is down to only 3-4 times in a 24 hr period, but I can't imagine her giving those up until college at least 
) Anyway....
Sorry for the vent.
Had to get it out to someone other than dh, who is getting sick of the same thing over and over 
But then the dr (not my Ob, who I love, but the maternal-fetal geneticist who oversees the u/s and other stuff) starts in with "You're still nursing? Dr. W [my ob] didn't tell you to stop?" (This all came about because we were joking that my LMP was the same for both pregnancies.) I said, "No. In fact, I nursed my daughter in front of him at one of my early appointments, and he didn't say a word. [Have I mentioned how cool he is?
I am VBACing with him.] And a few weeks later I asked him if I needed to take calcium supplements for the three of us." [His answer was no, not necessary, which, as it turns out, agrees with kellymom.com. How much do I like this guy???]She seemed stunned, but said, "Oh, well, I totally trust him." I asked if she thought the baby (the one inside
) was not getting enough, was on the small side, etc. Both she and the tech (a woman and mother of at least 2 also) said no, baby was a good size (14 oz, approx), measured exactly on target for 20 weeks (I had the u/s at 20w0d). But then they both started in "mother to mother" on how I should wean dd before the baby comes so she "won't regress." [How could they possibly know how I parent? All they know about me is that I am still nursing a 17 month old. That's IT!] At this point I had pretty much stopped listening (dh had wisely tuned out 5 min before and was just looking at the baby), but I just kept thinking, "Regress to WHAT? Being a nursing toddler? That's what she is!" Sheesh, if I have to spend a lot of time nursing them both before dd loses interest and goes back to 3-4 times a day, what's it to them? (or my mom or whoever)--As I tried to explain, I am a SAHM! That's my job! (The dr and tech also seemed to think, incorrectly, that nutritionally the milk would favor the toddler and give the nb the short shrift....I am so tempted to fax them pages from kellymom.com) I seem to be the only person on earth (other than dh and my LLL pals) who seems to think that tandem nursing could ease the transition for dd, instead of making her jealous and unreasonable. I am SO grateful I still have milk now I can't even explain it in words. (She is down to only 3-4 times in a 24 hr period, but I can't imagine her giving those up until college at least ) Anyway....Sorry for the vent.
Had to get it out to someone other than dh, who is getting sick of the same thing over and over 
your babe' either needs that connection with you or she doesn't. you either attend to your baby's needs or you don't. Frankly, i prefer dd doesn't totally wean until after the baby comes because i want her to know for certain that it is her choice not to nurse and the new baby does not impinge on her rights in the family. (of course, that doesn't mean mama can't pull some rank and help decide when and how long 
