Hey guys. So, I have been thinking about my next birth, as i have major baby lust, and I am almost certain I want more people there next time, because I think that although couple/solo UC is best for some women, I really feed off other people, and think my first birth was worse because there was no one there..I really like/feel drawn to the traditional "surrounded by women" style of birthing.....No, i do not think any of the women needs to be a "professional", but maybe just supportive friends/family...I had considered the midwife i used in my first birth (for prenatal only, I UC'ed), because she rocks and the assistant/doulas she uses are LLL people I know..and a friend of mine here just used them (it was a HBAC for her) and it really seemed like this big party...very neat...but then I started thinking that my mom and sister would like to be there...they had been so positive to me...and my mom was just floored by the "Psalm and Zoya" film on DHC she saw...and I thought she had come around and might be supportive...and while I'm there at thanksgiving, and out of the blue she asks me "you wouldn't do it that way again, would you?" meaning birth UC...and I was so upset..she was clear that she does not think it is a good way to birth and thinks I should have a midwife...I know it is not HER fault..but i had built up the image in my head of being able to birth with her there, and she shatterred it.....it was just so disappointing for me....anyway...see a similar post in Breastfeeding support to see how she lost even more of my respect.....
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11/27/05 at 12:57am