Originally Posted by tiffer23
I agree with a lot of the others. An intact penis is important, but an intact family is far more important. I grew up with a very broken family and it's had lasting effects. DH grew up with a circumcised penis and couldn't care less about it (though he does agree that we won't circ. our sons). I think your son would be much more upset that you took away his chance for a father who is there with him all the time, than for the fact of getting him circumcised, especially, since in your husband's mind it's for a religious reason.
I think your situation is very hard. Maybe once you explain to your husband the negative effects of it, and that some children do die from it, although it's very very rare, that that terrifies you, and that you just cannot make yourself do it right now. Talk to him possibly about waiting until the child is older (by then would he forget about it, or lose interest in getting it done?), or some alternative.
I'll definitely keep your family in my prayers. Hopefully you and your husband can come to the right decision for your family together!
If you and your husband end up with the kind of poisoned marriage that my parents had, because of this, it will do neither of you, or your son, any good to stay together.
I'd also like to say that I don't believe that any court will give full custody of a newborn to the father, particularly if the mother is breastfeeding, unless she can be proven to be unfit, and I don't believe that this would be the case.