Originally Posted by eilonwy
Okay, you obviously don't know me or anything about me, so I'm going to explain a few things:
My point was that weight loss during pregnancy- and yours was very significant- shouldn't be a cause of celebration, and people shouldn't wish they could do the same. People with hyperemesis who almost die and lose that much, I can assure you, do not celebrate it.
You don't need to lecture me, or justify yourself, about overweight people during pregnancy- I weigh far more than you, actually. You also made some odd statements, like that heavy people tend to lose throughout pregnancy- that's not been shown and it's way far outside the norm, and I have never seen nor heard proof of it (and neither have my m-wives- I quizzed them pretty heavily about weight issues from the get-go because I was so nervous I'd gain too much). Where did you get that information from!? It sounds (I am not saying you are, I'm saying the statement is) like a generally poor, fat-phobic statement. Some doctors can't stand that already heavy people need to gain more in a pregnancy, and a lot of us have to deal with that bias all the time. The general consensus -even from mainstream, non fat-friendly OBs- is that while the total amount gained varies, it is never safe to lose during pregnancy.
I hope that I clarified that I'm talking about the response and not your personal situation at all! It's hard- SO hard- for all of us to deal with any of this weight stuff during pregnancy, no matter what's happening. Our bodies are being hijacked! I think we all have issues and troubles with it. I think the thread concerning a person who gained a normal amount of weight, but titled help, too much weight!- encouraged me to post a lot more about this than normal. It's hard to gain a healthy amount of weight during pregnancy, and noone should feel bad about it. (Again- not saying *you* made anyone feel bad about it, saying the tone of some of these posts have). I also think there's the normal "web effect", which due to embarrassment about weight, leads to a few rules (sometimes but not usually broken this is meant tongue in cheek for those who think I"m being snarky!)
1) skinny people post their belly pictures
2) people without stretchmarks post their belly pictures
3) people who gain only small amounts of weight (or lose!) post
This leads to a shift in the, well, normal baseline when an outsider comes in and reads everything- others than myself have written saying they were surprised by the number of "losing weight" posts on here. I would hate for that perception to make people feel bad about healthy weight gains or their bodies.
SO, enough of this topic. If I were brave enough I would break rules 1,2, and 3, but look at me not putting my money where my mouth is. Or, one could say, I'm giving people a break to not have to look at such things . See? I CARE.
Oh, since this is an update thread, and I really feel uncomfortable about continuiously harping on the above, I"ll add an update. I went to my first prenatal yoga class today. It was really good, but hurt my hips way more than I had expected! I stretched in places I simply did not know stretched. I think it will be great preparation for labor, and am really excited about it. I wish I had started earlier. Does anyone else out there do this at this point in their pregnancy, and if so, do you have any suggestions about hip-friendly poses?
ok, that's my update