Surrogate Mothering

[happyday8598]

Does anybody have any info about this?

I'm seriously thinking about becoming a surrogate mother. I just feel that I need to do this. I don't know anything about it, though... I've read a couple of books, and have done some limited research, but it's all so repetitive.

I would LOVE to speak with somebody who has gone through this, on either side...

I don't have a family in mind, so I'd need to know how to get myself out there so that I can "chose" parents to carry a baby for... I have stipulations on my end, if that's "allowed"...

Anyway, anybody? Anything??

Warmly,
Emily

[Clarity]

have you tried http://www.surromomsonline.com/ ? I have run into quite a few moms here and elsewhere who are thinking of it...and a few who have done it...to help them SAH and to give a gift to a family who needs it. I myself have considered the option for future children...either traditional surrogacy with a surrogate or donor egg/ivf for me. Most moms are interested in gestational surrogacy...for legal reasons that seems more common.

just wanted to add...the surrogate having conditions and selecting her family seems pretty normal. I would think you'd have to interview them as much as vice versa...it's not like egg donation where people are usually matched anonymously. there are a lot of circumstances to arrange not just $$...contact during pregnancy, whose at the birth, medical decisions, complications, if selective termination is an option if IVF results in higher order multiples, contact with the child, etc.

[Beth-TX]

Emily

Have you given birth to children of your own? Pregnancy and birth are powerful experiences. I think it would help if you knew what you were getting into.

It really would be a wonderful gift to someone if you could do this.

peace, Beth

[happyday8598]

I have two beautiful little boys. I am a single mother who really enjoyed pregnancy and childbirth, but realy can't/doesn't want to have another of my own... However I would love for somebody else to feel the wonderful feeling of being a parent...

I know the bond, and know how to differentiate having my own child, and carrying a child for somebody else...

I'm very excited to think about this...

Warmly,
Emily

[USAmma]

I think that's such a generous thing you have done! I would do it for a family member, and dh and I are considering it for my SIL if she can't have a baby by the time we are done with kids. But it can be so emotional. I would want to keep track of that child and know that he/she was being raised well and treated well. You form a bond with that child even if it's not biologically yours.

Best of luck!
Darshani