Originally Posted by kmecke
I am an aspiring Doula like many of you here. I have a BEAUTIFUL 9 month old daughter who loves to nurse and never leaves my side for more then an hour which is VERY rare! I was wondering if youhave ever heard of a Doula who brings their baby with them to births? Is this even a possibility for me? I very much want to persue this dream but am not willing to compromise my daughter. I imagine a mother needing me there as a coach and support and to help the father help the mother. Please let me know if you wonderful ladies think Im insane for wanting to bring my daughter along at least until shes ready to be away for long periods of time. I would like to know an honest opinon before I invest money into training.
ok, this is my 3rd attempt at posting this reply, almost feel like something is working against me here
If you really want honest
. Here are my thoughts.
Birth is unpredictable; you can sometimes be with a mother for 18 hours strait. I could not have imagined my little ones being good and allowing me to give the mom the attention she needs for that long. It may be fine if it all worked out how you described it in your post
But that is not reality. For some yes, for others, no. Some women need very hands on, including 2 hands on,
for massage and assistance in positioning, ect. I also think it may be hard to find very many moms who would want to hire a doula that was bringing along a baby of child who may begin crying or going crazy and distract you and her from the important work that labor is. I am not trying to sound rude or anything about kids as I have 3 myself, and have only recently broken free from them at all.
Here is my suggestion; although you need to do what you feel is right for you and your family. Start your planning. It can really take some time to figure it all out even before you begin attending births. This can all be done while your dd still needs you so much. I did a lot of thinking and researching when my dd was littler. She weaned at 21 months, and is now 28 months, and now I have set the wheels in motion.
Look at what a Doula really is and does. I ran across a woman’s site today that I thought had a very nice description of what a Doula does. I will post a link at the end here if I can find it again
Most doulas do not take really kindly to the word "coach". I am not trying to be rude or say anything about the way you worded your original post but it may be something to get you thinking.
Next, decide whether or not you want to become certified. If so there is plenty of time involved in researching what organization to use for cert. If you do decided to go that route, look at the required reading list for that organization. There is plenty of reading time right there and that is a great pro-active step in pursuing your dream. Also look at when and where you can find a workshop in your area for that organization. You can start planning for when you will be able to attend one. For example DONA requires 3 births for your cert. You must attend a workshop BEFORE the 3 births count toward your cert. They also allow 2 years from the time you begin your process to get those 3 qualifying births. So you really don’t have to rush into the actual attending in order to really be working in the right direction.
Then you can also start gathering supplies. I have really begun to realize that even though there isn’t a ton of stuff I want to have, it is going to cost money to get all these things and every little bit adds up. I wish I would have started preparing in that way sooner. You can do quick searches on yahoo, or google for "doula birth bag" and come up with what alot of different people like to have on hand. You will se a big variation, but as you get to reading and really thinking about your role you can come up with a starting point for your self and what you think your style will be then after you start attending births, you can add to or take away from your bag.
Last, I want to wish you the best in beginning your journey and feel free to ask away here, there are plenty of great ladies to help out! And everyone loves to here updates on your journey!
here is that link, I do not know this lady or anyone involved with her, i just liked her message so I thought Id share! Spread the reality, that allhttp://www.birthblessing.com/abt.htm