I am so sad 
Today ds, dd and I went to a park we have never been to before. I noticed there were quite a few children there. Also quite a few adults. I figured everyone was out like us enjoying the unusually warm weather. I began playing with ds and dd as usual. A few minutes later I hear a baby crying. My mama ears perk up, of course. I relax and assume his/her mom is nearby and making her way over to tend to the baby, deal with siblings, etc. Having a baby and preschooler myself, I know it takes longer to reach baby now. The crying escalates. The baby becomes frantic. DS notices. I begin to feel increasingly upset. Hard to describe the feeling but it's like a primal urge to go to that baby and rescue it. I tell ds I will be right back and walk 10 feet, over to the baby and see that it really is just a tiny litle one - maybe 6 months old. He/she is flailing and crying. I look up and around assuming the mother hasn't heard or is otherwise engaged and unable to get to her baby. All I see are a bunch of women sitting on benches chatting while children play. Maybe 5 feet from the frantic baby. I ask one woman passing by me if it is her baby and she says "nope". I glance around and see a woman looking up from her conversation and at me. I ask if this is her baby. She says "yeah he's with me and he's fine". I figured out quickly that it was a daycare and mentioned to the other woman engaged in the chat, that this baby seemed quite distressed and was anyone going to comfort him. She said no. I asked if his mother knew that her baby was being left to cry in a stroller (I am normally a non-confrontational type so I was not aggressive in any way). She stood up, got in my face, and said "he does the same thing at home". I didn't know what to say. At that point the baby had cried itself to sleep I went back to ds and dd who were playing. DS was upset but had tried to tune the crying out. We entered another part of the park and I asked another adult if she was with that group. She said no, she was there with her own home daycare. She asked if I was looking for daycare. I said no but I was very concerned that babies were being left to cry at the other daycare. She just got up and left with her group. Next thing that happened was an older man yelling at a young girl (maybe 3-4yrs old) saying she did something bad and to "SIT OVER THERE". She seemed scared and quickly did what he said. He gathered up his group and left. After all three groups were gone, I asked another mother about the groups. She told me there were three daycares that used the park frequently. She told me she had witnessed some not so nice treatment of the children. She said one was a husband/wife run daycare. I believe the man who was yelling was the husband of the woman who was letting the baby cio. I left the park with a horrible sick feeling.
I don't know what to do. I am not one to rush to judgement and I did have a baby who cried for an entire year so I understand high needs babies who are difficult to soothe but this was really awful. These women sat around chatting while, 5 feet away, a baby sat, turned to the fence, screaming and writhing. I'm getting upset again just thinking about it. DS is still talking about it.
I don't know the name of the daycare or if there is even something I can do. I feel sick over this. Is there something I could/should do?
Today ds, dd and I went to a park we have never been to before. I noticed there were quite a few children there. Also quite a few adults. I figured everyone was out like us enjoying the unusually warm weather. I began playing with ds and dd as usual. A few minutes later I hear a baby crying. My mama ears perk up, of course. I relax and assume his/her mom is nearby and making her way over to tend to the baby, deal with siblings, etc. Having a baby and preschooler myself, I know it takes longer to reach baby now. The crying escalates. The baby becomes frantic. DS notices. I begin to feel increasingly upset. Hard to describe the feeling but it's like a primal urge to go to that baby and rescue it. I tell ds I will be right back and walk 10 feet, over to the baby and see that it really is just a tiny litle one - maybe 6 months old. He/she is flailing and crying. I look up and around assuming the mother hasn't heard or is otherwise engaged and unable to get to her baby. All I see are a bunch of women sitting on benches chatting while children play. Maybe 5 feet from the frantic baby. I ask one woman passing by me if it is her baby and she says "nope". I glance around and see a woman looking up from her conversation and at me. I ask if this is her baby. She says "yeah he's with me and he's fine". I figured out quickly that it was a daycare and mentioned to the other woman engaged in the chat, that this baby seemed quite distressed and was anyone going to comfort him. She said no. I asked if his mother knew that her baby was being left to cry in a stroller (I am normally a non-confrontational type so I was not aggressive in any way). She stood up, got in my face, and said "he does the same thing at home". I didn't know what to say. At that point the baby had cried itself to sleep
I went back to ds and dd who were playing. DS was upset but had tried to tune the crying out. We entered another part of the park and I asked another adult if she was with that group. She said no, she was there with her own home daycare. She asked if I was looking for daycare. I said no but I was very concerned that babies were being left to cry at the other daycare. She just got up and left with her group. Next thing that happened was an older man yelling at a young girl (maybe 3-4yrs old) saying she did something bad and to "SIT OVER THERE". She seemed scared and quickly did what he said. He gathered up his group and left. After all three groups were gone, I asked another mother about the groups. She told me there were three daycares that used the park frequently. She told me she had witnessed some not so nice treatment of the children. She said one was a husband/wife run daycare. I believe the man who was yelling was the husband of the woman who was letting the baby cio. I left the park with a horrible sick feeling.I don't know what to do. I am not one to rush to judgement and I did have a baby who cried for an entire year so I understand high needs babies who are difficult to soothe but this was really awful. These women sat around chatting while, 5 feet away, a baby sat, turned to the fence, screaming and writhing. I'm getting upset again just thinking about it. DS is still talking about it.
I don't know the name of the daycare or if there is even something I can do. I feel sick over this. Is there something I could/should do?
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