I'm queen of emotions these days as well. My older dd's bday was the other day and I had this nice little mother-daughter day all planned out. I was gonna take her to the mall to one of those little girl stores where they do your hair & makeup (yes, way to advanced for my 5 yo but she always points it out and I had promised I'd take her for her bday) and then shop for her xmas dress. So that morning arrives and I tell her that we're going to do that and first she says she wants me to stay home with younger dd and she wants daddy to take her (ouch!) and then she goes on to say that she doesn't want to go at all, that they'll make her hair "freak out" (I don't know where she gets this stuff) and they'll make her look really weird. Nothing I said helped and eventually I said, while trying to conceal my tears, that if she didn't want to go then she didn't have to. Dh was still asleep in bed so I ran back to him, jumped in bed and started sobbing. Of course the girls followed me in and I didn't want to make it seem like this day was all about *me* so I asked him to get them out so I could be alone for awhile. So finally I compose myself and come back out to make her happy bday breakfast, which is traditionally pancakes w/blueberries & whipped cream on top. We're short of pancake mix though (which I didn't realize when I bought everything else for it the night before) and dd hears this. She says she doesn't want pancakes then - she'll just have waffles. I'm like, "we still need to run to the store to buy the mix" and she says then she just wants cereal and yogurt. Again I break into tears and have to leave the room. I felt horribly rejected. I'm pretty sure that if I wasn't pg I wouldn't have been so hurt by her typical child-like behavior. So I went to the mall alone, crying on and off the whole way there. I'm a dork.
On the dh thing - my dh never researches anything. I do it and tell him how I want to do things. We've had small disagreements here or there, but I don't think he's up for fighting for his unresearched stance b/c I've always gotten my way w/o much effort at all. Circ was an issue when I was pg with my first and we didn't find out she was a girl until she was born. But basically we took Bradley classes, I learned about it there, said I wouldn't be doing that, he gave the typical "he'll look different" arguement, but it wouldn't have gone further than that. Like I said, I just don't think he's up for the fight.