Stress can also come from anxiety. I have a pretty good set-up here, though DH is away 3-4 days a week & we have no family close by. No help with the house, but we plan to work that into the budget this summer.
Even though I have my healthy beautiful children, am married to my soulmate, and we finally found our dream house...I sometimes seem to wake up feeling like my whole body is clenched. I worry about things that really don't merit the kind of attention I give them, and I'm just crackeling with stress.
Usually, it's a lack of sleep, not eating enough healthy foods, having had a cup of coffee (sadly, I can't tolerate it as I used to) or sugary foods. I just feel miserable. I've learned to treat it like I would the flu...rest, fluids, nourishing foods, soft music, and not expecting to get *everything* done *perfectly* until I feel better.
Sometimes, though, it's the strain of trying to keep up the myth that I have everything together, and am doing just fine, thankyouverymuch. Since my family is concerned that our four children are too much work, and will ruin my health, I feel compelled to disprove them. I feel I can't be candid, or honest about how sometimes it *is* hard, but I have no regrets, etc. Also, since my neighbors think that I'm the earthy birthy bread bakin' mama who does it all with a baby on her back....well, I'd like to live up to that.
It kills me when I 'fail', and buy the school lunch, forget to sign a school paper, am late driving DD to piano lessons, the neighbor sees the dirty kitchen floor or the piles of laundry I'm folding. It's like death by a thousand cuts, because I think people are *waiting* for me to stumble, so they can be smug. I'm pretty sure that most people are into their own lives, and really could care less about me, my kids, or my freakin' whole wheat bread!
But still, I do it to myself. So yes, you can create your own stress too...*especially* when things appear perfect!