1st off I wanted to make sure that I did'nt imply that a SAHM couldn't be stressed - That's a good one! I have 3 kids, a dh that works 14 hour days, no help whatsoever near by...
Listening to you all talk brings up many good points. Initially, I was just listening to her tell me how stressed she was, all the while, in the back of my head, I'm running a list of things that she has at her disposal to help her life be less stressful - and then comparing it to mine
obviously not the ideal way of looking at things - the grass is always greener, right?
She and I are definately different people - I'm much more laid back - I could see how she would be the one trying to maintain the image of being a "perfect" mom - I gave up on that a long time ago!
I guess I have grown fond of the chaos - and thankfully my dh has grown used to it - like he has a choice!
I did email her, offered for my dh and I to take the kids to the park one afternoon- she thanked me, said she has most of the days covered with Mommy & Me/Preschool functions and her dh has the weekends covered for the most part plus she said her and dh would be having an overnight date this weekend - so at least I tried!
You all had me feeling pretty crappy about the way I sort of dismissed her stress - I guess I was just thinking, "Man...Do you know how many people would love to be in her shoes?" My best friend is recently divorced, has 2 lil' kids, her ex lost his job - she just had to have a tooth pulled because she couldn't afford to have it fixed, she had to sign her kids up for an adopt a family program for X-mas, plus she has some unknown health condition with no insurance at the moment, was living in a house with one exterior door (downstairs) that wouldn't close and couldn't fix it so was sleeping REALLY badly for fear of someone coming in, etc, etc....So I guess after talking to my bf - and them my SIL - I kind of felt like, well, to be honest "Are you kidding me? You're stressed?! Do you know how easy you have it?!" But you all are right - each of us has our own stressors and how much we can take - Just because I may view her life as pretty darn cushy, doesn't mean it can't be tough to be in her shoes....