Originally Posted by sarahmae1
Well, yes and no... he does help some but not as much as I would like. He has a relaxing job most of the time, that he really enjoys, with an hour lunch break that he never takes because he doesn't need to. I work 24/7 365 normally without any breaks. I typically have to ask him to do anything I want him to do, and even then he might do it and he might not. For example, I ask for him to watch the kids while I make supper and he says he will but he doesn't really do it and they end up in the kitchen w/ me anyway. He often 'disapears' into the basement on his computer for several hours each night. Usually ds1 will go with him for a little while. If I tell him to change ds2 diaper he will do it but 'in a minute' which in his world is about in 20mins. I do baths, feedings, etc. plus caring for the home but he does help a little more on the weekends.
You see, I find that to be disrespectful and lazy of a man to do that. Would rather let his child sit in a nasty diaper than just change it and get it over with. Would rather spend time on his computer than spend time with his children, who BTW, you did not create on your own, I am guessing.
My husband did that last night with our 11 mo old. I was on the phone with a friend who I do not get to talk to often. He said something about the baby's diaper being poopy. I said, well could you please change him? I went back to my conversation and when I got off of the phone, about an hour later (I RARELY ever talk on the phone that long) the baby was STILL poopy. I lit into that man like a firecracker. I told him that he might be bringing in the bacon, but I am no slave and he can darn well change a freaking diaper. And how DARE him let that baby sit in filth. To me, that borders on child abuse, to allow a child to sit in a nasty butt diaper because you think you are too GOOD and IMPORTANT to change one. I rarely get to be on the phone or go anywhere, we live where HE wanted to live, and I ask little of him.
It is really disgusting that his mother taught him that basically, because he has a penis, that he is not required to do anything except work a job, come home and flop on his butt. I know where he learned it. I do not have to get onto him often, thank God. He has learned for the most part.
I will teach my sons better than that. I do not care if their father models it for them or not~I am still gonna try my best.
I refuse, absolutely REFUSE to subscribe to the notion that a man cannot do anything and should be catered to and waited on, hand and foot.