I wish my dh was more involved w/our daughter!!
He's self-employed and works like a horse every day - he leaves at 8a.m. and tries to return at 7:30p.m. to share dd's bedtime routine w/me. Most of the time though he returns at 8p.m. or even later!
Luckily there's no need for him to help me w/the household since we live as one big family w/my MIL and FIL which is great! My job is it do all the laundry and help my MIL to cook (assembling the table, etc.) and I make dinner most of the time (we only eat bread w/ham, cheese, etc. for dinner, lunch is when we eat a hot meal), we don't need to clean the house since we have a cleaning woman coming every two weeks. So household chores are shared as far as possible.
And of course I take care of dd, but there are times when my ILs do that for me - like when I have a doctor's appintment, etc. But neither of them would understand if I wanted to go alone anywhere else (like to the library, into town, to drink a coffee and such)
Everything will have to change tough when I start an apprenticeship this coming September. I am traing to be an office manager and will work from 7:30a.m. - 5p.m. DD will be at a waldorf daycare during the morning (until 1p.m.) and my ILs will take care of her afterwards. Our plan is though to move out until the end of the year so there won't be anymore someone (resp. my MIL) to take care of cooking, grocery shopping and such and I am a bit anxious
There are times when I am really frustrated that noone understands and is willing to give me a dd-off-time (tough I get that every monday and wednesday afternoon when I go into town by train to visit my therapist) but on the other hand I know that my DH is working that hard to pay off MY debts!