10 yo Son Moody, Called Me an "Ugly Hippie"-Need Advice - Page 2

[Mizelenius]

Originally Posted by srain

Hmmm. It sounds like you feel the games cause major negative changes in his personality. What sorts of limits do you set? Frequency/ content/ etc.? I wonder if fewer or greater restrictions would change the dynamic. or just something "different"- like unlimited gaming some days, none on other days-

That's what I was thinking. My DD is young (4), but I can already see that I'm just asking for trouble when she views my words as "my way or the highway." (Not saying you're doing this-- I don't know your story), When she sees that I'm taking her needs/wants into account and we work on compromises together, things are MUCH better. For example, could you tell your DS that he can play the games but that you want to find a game you BOTH agree to? Or that you'll hike one day, and then play WITH him another?

Anyway, about the comment! I'm glad he apologized!

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by beansavi

How much of this is normal pre-teen stuff?

My son is 10 and 1/2, and when he didn't get to play his video games this morning, he "pretended" not to remember why he lost them (behavior on Friday), yelled, knocked things over and then called me an "ugly hippie".

He "pretends" that all his problems are because his mother is into natural parenting, inlcuding strict limits on electronic media. We go to the river and hike every weekend, and he is always great about half way through, really enjoying himself and getting "lost" in building forts and exploring. But before that, he flips out and doesn't want to leave the house, screaming, crying...

(Me)

: beansavi, i just realized that is you, I was just gonna say that it sounds about right w/out reading any of the other replies. I can't even repeat what DS says to me (10) it is like perpetual PMS (for him)

I wonder what DD is gonna be like at that age???

[beansavi]

Well we just recently realized that DH has Aspergers Syndrome, and FIL an even more severe case of it. So, DS is showing milder signs. So, we are approaching it in this way now, using resources and support along those lines...

Thanks, Guys!