boys and violence

[cravenab00]

am I the only one who's son is OBSESSED with anything violent?
I do not let him watch anything violent on TV, I do not allow violent toys in my home, I have no idea where this stems from.

My husband insists its because "he's a boy" but I think this goes WAY beyond that. He can take ANY thing and turn it into something violent.

for example, he will occasionally play "house" with his sister, but with in minutes, it is turned into, "throw dolls down the stairs" "army babies" "kidnap babies"

This drives me nuts.

what can I do?

[litlwons]

My DS,who will 6 in February, is also obsessed with violent stuff as well. I also don't let him watch violent stuff... I think mine is getting it from school, or maybe it is just "in him". I have a hard time with it, but I know the more I react the more he does it. If it gets really bad I tell him he can play it in his room alone (which he never does).
I don't know...is it just something boys go through. My DS is alos very frightened right now, of everything,I almost feel like he is doing all this violent stuff to feel safe "The kill or be killed" attitude. I have friends though that, there sons do the samething.
I am hoping it will pass...

[UnschoolnMa]

I am somewhat of the mind that forbidding something makes it all the more tempting. So with that in mind, the fact that there has been no violent media or toys (I am guessing you mean guns, knives?) allowed means he is trying to work out his ideas, wonders, and most likely fears (though it might not seem like it) about violence in whatever way he can. The one thing that cannot be made "off limits" is his imagination.

I would discuss the things he is saying. "Oh no kidnapped babies! The mama and daddy would be very sad I bet!" "Who is going to save the babies and help them be safe?" Maybe that would help him and you?

[resimom]

i have a boy that's not at all interested in violence. as he grows older he seems more and more out of place with other boys. i don't wish for him to be violent, yet i do wish he could find his place among other boys.

i don't know if it is genetic or not, but i have five kids and am around lots of other kids from very different homes/backgrounds. from what i have observed it does seem that most boys are at least somewhat interested in violence. this leads me to believe that it is at least partly physiological.