so much for the locker room argument

[whateverdidiwants]

My dh coaches several sports at the high school he teaches at and he said that on the bus to one of the games last week several of the male students were talking about a biology class they're taking and circ came up. Apparently, most of the boys on the team are intact, and they were teasing the circ'd kids about missing part of their penis.

This is NOT to say that I think that kids should be teased about their bodies, but it was nice to hear about the unaltered body being seen as normal. (we're in South Florida, btw, which has a much lower circ rate than most places, ime)

[LavenderMae]

That's cool!! Well not the circed guys were getting teased but that most of the guys are intact!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Although it does make more sense that guys with part of their penis missing would be "teased" not guys with ALL their penis.
And no I do not condone teasing at all.

[onlyboys]

That's good to hear! Especially in Florida!

I think I only know two boys other than my own who are intact.

[nd_deadhead]

Kids can be mean; kids tease. I have seen kids teased for being too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, too smart, too stupid, hair too long, hair too short, freckles, acne, glasses, braces, boobs too big, boobs too small, big ears. My sons have been teased for being identical twins!

It is ludicrous to try to anticipate (at a child's birth) any and every possible source of teasing, and unthinkable to try to avoid them all with surgery.

I think it's far easier to teach kids how to deal with bullies.

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(not about the teasing)
Its great that things are changing. I'm in s. fl too, and that is a little inspireing.
My brother told me about one of the conversations he was apart of with some friends. All the girls thought intact was "gross" ( i doubt any of the 18yo's had even gotten a chance to really use an intact penis, kwim?) well after several convo's with my brother he officially "doesn't care either way" it's up to his wife. So now I just wait for him to get married...

[njeb]

I totally agree that the locker room argument is bogus. My 18 year old son has never been teased for being intact, even though we live in a very high-circ. area.

I also, feel, however, that boys should not be teased, whether they are intact or circ'ed. It isn't doing our cause any good to turn the tables and tease circ'ed boys.

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Originally Posted by njeb

It isn't doing our cause any good to turn the tables and tease circ'ed boys.

I think everyone agrees with that.
And to know that cir status comes up in high school and the boys are ultimately being teased (weither they are being teased for cir or intact status) is really disheartening (sp).
I agree with pp that said that we should teach our kids not to bully and how to handle a bully insted.

[channelofpeace]

My dh is still pro-circ, even though i told him our ds was going to be left intact. One of his arguement was the ole locker room one. Turns out that one of our very good male friends from hs (that we still hang out with) is intact! DH didn't know, i didn't know, none of our friends knew (i found out by talking with his sister about not circing). Pretty much blew the whole "locker room" reason out of the water! ANd you know what? Even if it was going to be an issue, i hope that i raise my son with enough self-respect and to love his body enough that he would be confindent and know that the bullies were wrong, not his body.

[midstreammama]

I realy didn't think that intact boys got teased all that much.

My two brothers are intact and I never heard of this. And...as far as I knowmy brother has a pretty healthy sex life...So the girls must not think too badly of it

[Minky]

I don't think we can deny that it has happened that an intact boy got teased.
It was not a reasonf or mutilation then and is not now. And especially with the rate at fifty fifty i bet it happens less often now. But don't deny that some boys have suffered, ok?

[whateverdidiwants]

Originally Posted by midstreammama

I realy didn't think that intact boys got teased all that much.

My dh did - and it didn't help that both his brother and father are cut, and the women he slept with before me were negative about his intact status so he felt like a total freak.

[midstreammama]

Originally Posted by midstreammama

I realy didn't think that intact boys got teased all that much.

My two brothers are intact and I never heard of this. And...as far as I knowmy brother has a pretty healthy sex life...So the girls must not think too badly of it

I didn't mean anything mean or offensive by this post. I hope it didn't come off that way. I was just stating my experience with it.

[LeosMama]

I didn't read your post that way. I read it as more quizzical, like "Wow, I didn't realize that happened" not "I don't think that happens."

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