or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Pregnancy and Birth › Birth and Beyond › amazing birth secrets REVEALED!
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

amazing birth secrets REVEALED! - Page 3

post #41 of 50
an interesting side note in my delivery...my water breaks and it looks brownish. i worry. i call the mw while i am having a contraction she's like "oh, honey...calm down...i hear you breathing all heavy...you aren't in labor yet, go back to sleep!" and i tell her that i know i am and that i'm worried about the pea soup color of my water. she continues to be condescending and asks me if i've felt ds move and i of course i hadn't even noticed if i had or not but i got really scared. so finally she's like ok i'll call the hospital and tell them you're on your way. in the car my labor gets crazy and i arrive at the hospital and the really sweet nurse looks surprised when i tell her my name and she says "oh, you're in labor...nancy told me you weren't!" (first-time moms get NO credit!!) i get into the room and hooked up to the fetal heart rate monitor, she checks my cervix (ouch!!) and i'm 5cm dilated. after 20 mintues she says baby looks fine. then here's the kicker...she smiles and tells me "you'd better hurry to the birth center, you don't want to give birth here!"
post #42 of 50
Quote:
Originally Posted by starlein26
an interesting side note in my delivery...my water breaks and it looks brownish. i worry. i call the mw while i am having a contraction she's like "oh, honey...calm down...i hear you breathing all heavy...you aren't in labor yet, go back to sleep!" and i tell her that i know i am and that i'm worried about the pea soup color of my water. she continues to be condescending and asks me if i've felt ds move and i of course i hadn't even noticed if i had or not but i got really scared. so finally she's like ok i'll call the hospital and tell them you're on your way. in the car my labor gets crazy and i arrive at the hospital and the really sweet nurse looks surprised when i tell her my name and she says "oh, you're in labor...nancy told me you weren't!" (first-time moms get NO credit!!) i get into the room and hooked up to the fetal heart rate monitor, she checks my cervix (ouch!!) and i'm 5cm dilated. after 20 mintues she says baby looks fine. then here's the kicker...she smiles and tells me "you'd better hurry to the birth center, you don't want to give birth here!"
OMG! How awful to be treated that way.

post #43 of 50
Quote:
Originally Posted by starlein26
an interesting side note in my delivery...my water breaks and it looks brownish. i worry. i call the mw while i am having a contraction she's like "oh, honey...calm down...i hear you breathing all heavy...you aren't in labor yet, go back to sleep!" and i tell her that i know i am and that i'm worried about the pea soup color of my water. she continues to be condescending and asks me if i've felt ds move and i of course i hadn't even noticed if i had or not but i got really scared. so finally she's like ok i'll call the hospital and tell them you're on your way. in the car my labor gets crazy and i arrive at the hospital and the really sweet nurse looks surprised when i tell her my name and she says "oh, you're in labor...nancy told me you weren't!" (first-time moms get NO credit!!) i get into the room and hooked up to the fetal heart rate monitor, she checks my cervix (ouch!!) and i'm 5cm dilated. after 20 mintues she says baby looks fine. then here's the kicker...she smiles and tells me "you'd better hurry to the birth center, you don't want to give birth here!"
WHAT??? Why would your MW send you to the hospital instead of having you come to the birth center?
post #44 of 50
Quote:
Originally Posted by starlein26
awww...that must be excrutiating...how did you cope with that? the new mommy instinct to hold your baby and protect them is so strong, i can't imagine what you must have endured having someone act like they get to make the decisions...
With my first birth I was pretty much taken aback. I gave birth at 1.30 pm and after they took me to my room and my DS to the nursery, it wasn't until 9 pm that I got to see him again. This hospital had nursing hours and babies were not allowed outside the nursery if it wasn't feeding time. The first feeding time after I gave birth was at 6 pm or so, but the nurses wouldn't bring me my baby because they were still busy with him in the nursery, and I was still too weak to walk all the way there (and it didn't occur to me that that was an option...).

This experience did traumatize me, and I decided to look for a better hospital for the next birth. The option of a home birth had crossed my mind, but was ruled out because I was having twins. Twin A was head down and twin B was transverse, so it was a relatively risky birth. Baby A was born with IUGR and spent the first few days in the NICU (I wrote about that experience in the NICU thread), and baby B "had to" spend the first night in the incubator in the regular nursery. This hospital was a bit better with allowing the babies with the mommies, but also only during the day.

So how did I deal with it? I had no choice but to deal with it! I guess that's what most mommies do, just make the best of it and try to get the hell out of there as quickly as possible.
I just know for next time that I will have a home birth (mainly because of this reason!!!), and if I will have to have a hospital birth, I will sign ourselves out after a few hours. I've heard it's possible, you will have to sign a million papers and they probably try to talk a lot of guilt into you, but it's doable.
post #45 of 50
If you plan on co-sleeping in the hospital, be prepared to have a frantic nurse burst into the room at 3AM, turn all the lights on, and insist you sign a release form stating that it's not their fault WHEN (not even if) you roll over and kill your baby.
post #46 of 50
Quote:
Originally Posted by LeosMama
...lactation consultants are wonderful and nearly every woman should see one, but they are not goddesses and if their advice seems to be off or not working for you, get a second opinion or go see a speech language pathologist for extra help.
It is not a requirement for a woman (or a man) to be a mother and have successfully breastfed a baby in order to be a Certified Lactation Consultant. One of those "no experience needed" professions.

I had looked into this years ago, and although I could have been a wonderful one, I did not like competing with inexperience since obviously experience was not what the hospitals were looking for.
post #47 of 50
Quote:
Originally Posted by reader
--The lovely roommate who has an endless parade of male visitors after you have just given birth and are moved to the postpartum rooms. ... Did I mention the "up all night giving birth really just want to sleep but it's impossible" part?
This happened to my sister. She had a roommate whose birth was a cakewalk and her male visitors kept ogling my sister, who had a caesarean section after hemmorhaging from a placenta previa, while my sister kept trying to nurse her new DD.

I filed a complaint with the hospital after the nurses ignored my repeated requests for my sister's privacy and to get those visitors out since visiting hours were up.

Quote:
... CALL SOCIAL SERVICES! GET A SOCIAL WORKER TO ASSESS THIS ABUSIVE MOTHER! THEY ARE REFUSING MEDICAL CARE FOR THEIR CHILD!... NOW.... NOW....NOW....NOW.
This is only the beginning of the rest of the world telling you that you do not know what you are doing and that the rest of the world knows better. It goes on for 18+ years!
post #48 of 50
Wow. I am LOVING my hospital after reading this thread. Okay, well, they did ask me to sleep with the lights on, but I didn't mind so much because I wasn't sleeping so much as gazing at my beautiful boy all night long. We coslept in the hospital with both babies, switching back and forth between me and my rooming-in hubby.

Also, after we spent an hour with our newborn in the delivery room, they let me carry him to the nursery. I was in a wheelchair (fine by me since I was sitting on icepacks and big old maxis) and because I'd been unmedicated, they just let me carry him. Fabulous hospital.

Oh, and I had an appendectomy at age 9 and had terrible HORRIBLE gas pains in my shoulder while in recovery. I think the gas pains definitely come from introducing air to the opened abdomen.
post #49 of 50
The didn't tell me that having a male medical student in the room can actually stall labor to the point where breaking the water and pitocin are necessary.

They didn't tell me that breaking the water dont always speed things up - and that you can actually risk to stall completely after having the water broken - EVEN if your contractions quadrouble in strength :

They also didn't tell me that accepting the epidural would make my birth last another 6 hours instead of the 1 hour it took to get me dilated to 10 with the pitocin.
post #50 of 50
Quote:
Originally Posted by MotherWhimsey
If you plan on co-sleeping in the hospital, be prepared to have a frantic nurse burst into the room at 3AM, turn all the lights on, and insist you sign a release form stating that it's not their fault WHEN (not even if) you roll over and kill your baby.
my son slept in his stupid bassinette thing a total of 3 hrs while we were there...all three hours my sister had put him in there cuz she didn't want to hold him...instead of giving him to me. luckily no one said anything.
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Birth and Beyond
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Pregnancy and Birth › Birth and Beyond › amazing birth secrets REVEALED!