7 yo dd was kissed by her "boyfriend"

[livdi]

I am not sure if this is no big deal...or something to worry about. My dd went to a play with her "boyfriend" and his grandparents. When she got home she was all giggly and told me that she had her first kiss. Apparently he kissed her in the parking garage when the grandparents were not looking. I was shocked that this happened.

Please let me know if this is normal, or if I should be worried. She made me promise not to tell her dad!

Thanks!

[Alkenny]

Totally normal. A kiss is but a kiss.

[Tofu the Geek]

I don't know if it's normal or not, it hasn't happened to my DD yet (she is 8) but I think she'd punch the kid if it did. A year and a half ago, a boy in her class was over at our house playing. He was moving to a different city and was very upset because he wouldn't be able to play with DD anymore as "she is the hottest girl in school". DD was SO upset. She cried to me, wouldn't talk to him anymore, and kept asking me, "WHY would he say that? You just don't say that to little girls, it's not right!". I explained that his wording choice may not have been the best, but that he meant it as a compliment because he liked her and she was a good friend. She then told me, "then he could have just said, I'll miss her because she's a good friend".

[Elowyn]

I had my first kiss from my "boyfriend" when I was 7, too. Didn't lead to a lifetime of debauchery or anything. (Oh, and he was an "older man" at 8...wooo eee...)

[ChristaN]

My dd had a little "boyfriend" last year when they were in first grade (both were 6 1/2). We ran into the boy and his family at the park at the end of the school year and he apparently kissed dd on the cheek. Same thing -- she was all giggly about not washing her cheek, etc.

He also sent her letters at school saying things like, "I can't wait until we get married" and dd kept talking about where they were going to live when they grew up b/c it had to have trains and an ocean (he wants to be a train engineer and she wants to be an underwater photographer). I saved the letters for her school scrapbook b/c they were so cute and funny. In any case, while they are still friendly, the major love affair seems to have blown over this year. It never went any further than a little kiss.

I just thought that the whole thing was cute and amusing. I told her that she picked a good one -- he's a really sweet little boy and very bright.

[Kindermama]

My dd had her first kiss this year from a classmate. She came home that day and told me she was "in love" and that he told her she was gorgeous! I didn't blink an eye! I just told her kisses are ok on the cheek.

[shanagirl]

No big deal and don't worry unless your dd doesn't like it and he persists. Children see their parents kiss, they are kissed by their parents. It's totally normal and sounds like it was very sweet.

[SabraMamma]

I agree- no big deal. But definitely take this opportunity of her being frank and honest with you as a guideline for future conversations. Let her know that you are happy that she shared this with you. If she continues to tell you about her boyfriends at age 7, maybe this will be a trend and she will stay honest with you.

[jenoline]

I had my "first kiss" when I was 5 . It was somewhat instigated by older siblings, but we were planning on getting married. Gave each other shoulder massages during kindergarten (and the teacher called our moms) , lol. It was very innocent stuff. I know there is generally a lot of concern, b/c kids seem to grow up so much faster these days, but as a PP said, unless your DD was upset about it I wouldn't worry.