My take on it:
I loved the idea of personal space at the table and the little cubbies for the kids' books and stuff. I do agree that since she was doing formal schooling, the pets and other distractions should be eliminated.
I'm really glad she was nursing!
I agree that the older kids needed to go to bed without prolonged cuddling. Some is great, of course, but mom had a point that she's been with 6 boys all day and needs to spend time with her dh before they are both so tired out they just want to sleep. I remember feeling resentful of my dh doing the same thing with my dd1 when I felt she could sit and play in bed if she was not ready for sleep, but *I* needed to be able to visit with my dh, too.
I also think the 8yo was old enough to go into his martial arts class by himself b/c it's not fair to have the other kids cooped up in the waiting room obviously bored stiff. My dd1 has classes and I will leave her and do exercise walking with my toddler in the stroller while she has her classes. I stay around for the first few until I know she's fine.
I very much disagree with the CIO for the two younger kids. If they take to a crib or bed, that's great. The toddler should be taught to stay in bed whether it's family bed or his own, but the baby was way, way
too young to put down alone since it obviously wasn't happy. (Some babies are happy with their beds, like my dd2, but others are not ready for that and should be kept in mom's arms or the family bed.) The toddler should not have been left to cry but at that age I believe they do need to be encouraged to have a bedtime and stay in bed. This is coming from an exhausted mom so my feelings may be skewed.