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My sister's answer to her cut son??  

post #1 of 13
12/14/05 at 9:09am
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My 4 yo. nephew asked my sister one day why my ds's penis looked "different". He thought my son's penis was "missing the head part" because the foreskin covers it, therefore rendering it from view.

My sister, not wanting to explain that she had part of his penis amputated at birth, hastily replied "that's the way you were born" and left it at that.

Ha! Everyone thinks the uncut ones are going to be the difficult ones to "deal" with! But that right there shows me that on some level, she knew she'd have to think long and hard for a reason good enough to justify the amputation of her child's most private body part.
post #2 of 13
12/14/05 at 10:17am


Man, if you're going to do it, at least have the cajones to be honest about it to your child.
post #3 of 13
12/14/05 at 10:25am
Ugh.

It sounds to me like she regrets her choice though... but either way, the child has a right to know and answering with 'that's the way you were born' is just wrong... I can't imagine lying to my children, even at 4 years old about an issue like that.

My step-son asked his mother and as much as I dispise the woman, she did tell him the absolute truth... of course, she did make it sound a lot more innocent then it was but I think at this point, hes'a little young to understand the full extent of what happened to him but atleast she owned up to it and said something along the lines of 'some mommies choose to have it cut off and some don't' but then went on to say that neither one is wrong. : Oh well, I'll learn him eventually.
post #4 of 13
12/14/05 at 12:50pm
I think I would probably be evil enough to tell the child the truth. He deserves that.


Frank
post #5 of 13
12/14/05 at 1:57pm
I'm afraid I can sympathize with the Mom on this one. The question obviously caught her off guard, adn I can relate to that. When my sons were about that age (possibly younger), they knew that they grew in my tummy, but when one of them asked "But how did we get IN there?" I panicked and answered "God put you there!"

Naturally I gave them more detail when they get older, and it isn't a response I'm particularly proud of - but I do understand how easy it is to blurt out the first thing that comes to mind!


In the case of the OP's sister, I might have said "He has a foreskin, and you don't", hoping he wouldn't ask WHY he didn't have one.

Though I have an evil side as well. One of these days my nephew (age 13) is going to realize that his cousins (my sons) are intact, and I really want to be a mouse in the corner if he asks his dad about it.
post #6 of 13
12/14/05 at 3:54pm
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Originally Posted by Frankly Speaking
I think I would probably be evil enough to tell the child the truth. He deserves that.


Frank
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post #7 of 13
12/14/05 at 10:35pm
Just curious, but would your sister circumcise another son if she were to have one?
post #8 of 13
12/15/05 at 9:33am
Thread Starter 
Yeah, without a doubt. She knows all about it - she does have me as a sister, after all, lol - but she wouldn't want her kids to look "different". Everyone in our and her husband's family is circ'd ('cept for my kid, of course), and she thinks the foreskin is gross and weird. I know, she is incredibly shallow.
post #9 of 13
12/15/05 at 9:45am
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Originally Posted by candiland
she thinks the foreskin is gross and weird. I know, she is incredibly shallow.
So, she thinks her nephew is gross and weird...grrrrr

I'll bet you have a hard time not letting her have it!
post #10 of 13
12/15/05 at 11:55pm
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Originally Posted by candiland
Yeah, without a doubt. She knows all about it - she does have me as a sister, after all, lol - but she wouldn't want her kids to look "different". Everyone in our and her husband's family is circ'd ('cept for my kid, of course), and she thinks the foreskin is gross and weird. I know, she is incredibly shallow.
I think my husbands scarred cut penis is gross. I also feel badly for my poor cut son who has the same gross scar oh how i wish i could turn back the hands of time!!
post #11 of 13
12/15/05 at 11:58pm
also in regards to the op's sister...I plan to tell my son (if we have another son) that Mommy just didn't know any better and that although I feel badly I did have his foreskin removed. I just hope they don't compare stories later on and he finds out what he missed. Maybe he should. I'm still feeling VERY guilty btw. I can't believe I thought circ was *no big deal*
post #12 of 13
12/16/05 at 1:50am
I'm sorry Jami, but maybe you should hope that they compare stories, just so both sons understand fully how valuable the foreskin is and don't cut their own sons.
post #13 of 13
12/16/05 at 6:41am
Jami-

When you know better, you do better - and that takes incredible courage.
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