Ds won't give me hugs anymore.

[mamaley]

No, I didn't mean to put this in the Preteen/Teen forum. He's only 5 and a half.

He doesn't seem to be mad at me, but he only wants to give me high fives when I drop him off at school or when I say good-night to him. It has to be a high five and "see you at 2:30" for school, or a high five and "have good dreams, see you in the morning".

He's a sweet kid. Mr. Happy-go-lucky, sweet to his little sister, always making us laugh. I don't think he's upset or angry. I guess it's just not cool to give kisses and hugs to your mama?

Is this just him seeking some independence from me? And if so, can't we hold off on that until, say, age 20?

[jannan]

dd won't even let me kiss her forehead. some one , some where, convinced her it had to do with germs . she will only hug and kiss her dad who doesn't live with us rightnow. i called the pediatrician and she said it is her way of establishing he independence. and it should change.
nodody but her dad can hug dd
it has really hurt my moms feelings.

[mamaley]

Sorry, I just saw this--glad to hear I'm not alone! He will hug me now, but no kisses still...kisses and hugs for dad whenever though! I think it's an independence thing too, though I admit it's happening much earlier than I had thought. He still acts normal around me, still jokes, says I love you (if I say it first, lol), gives me high fives and likes to play with me.

Anyway, thanks for the reply.

[Pagan_princess]

My son started to shy away from giving me kisses when he was about seven. It was really hard for me, but I understood that it is just him trying to assert his independence.

Once in awhile, he will still let me give him a kiss on his cheek or forehead when I tuck him in bed at night. At least he will still let me do that.

[Attached Mama]

peer pressure!

sick isn't it how young it starts? i remember being a kid and finding out hugs/kisses weren't cool. but i was prob about 9.