Intact sons after a circ'd son?

[CalebsMama05]

I know I'm not the only one here who regretted getting my son cut. but did anyone who decided to leave future sons intact have problems getting dh on board?

I informed my dh several days ago that if our baby is a boy (i'm currently 11 wks) he would NOT be circ'd. He was less than thrilled with the idea and still is. He has said that If I feel that strongly (and i DO) that he wouldn't push the issue but if it is a boy he DOES want him circ'd. I feel badly that even after what we went through with our son he could possibly WANT to do that to another son! Anyone else have this problem? I'm glad I *won* but I want him to understand why I want our future son(s) to remain intact and have HIM want it too.

[njeb]

We have tons of moms here who have a circ'ed older son and an intact younger son. My advice to you is to go through the archives and search for threads which have titles like "One Circ'ed, One Intact," or something like that. You'll find a lot of good advice there.
Other posters will be along pretty soon who have personal experience with this issue.

[Slingin'Momto4]

We had our 5 yr old DS circ'd He ended up with a horrible infection and it turns out that the doc took to much skin off He complained that his penis hurt up until about 6 mths ago. I am hoping it will not hurt him as he grows up. I am sickened with myself for letting that happen to him! But I did not research and DH wanted it done so we did it against my instincts

Fast forward to 2 yrs ago. We found out we were PG and I said if it is a boy he will NOT be getting circ'd he was not happy with it but he lived with it. We have a 15 mth old that is also intact and DH still makes comments about circ'ing and how its cleaner and blah, blah. I think he just makes those comments to get to me because he has mentioned that circ'ing is stupid and there is no real reason to do ita couple of times. I showed him a bunch of links and just spoke alot to him about it. I am not sure if he is 100% on board like me or not but I know 2 of my boys are intact and any future boys will be as well!

[sarathan]

My first son is circ'd but my second son is intact. I had no problems getting dh on board, he is a very open minded guy. Why is your dh wanting him to be circ'd? Just keep calmly talking to him about it, I bet he'll come around.

[jakesmama]

I feel pretty strongly about leaving a second son intact, but depending on who my future mate is I don't know how well that will go over. My current boyfriend's main issue with it (heck yeah I've already brought it up!) seems to be locker room teasing later in life. I've explained how the percentages are changing. I think that if I were adamant down the road I could convince, but I want him to want it too. He doesn't admit that it's affected him in his life, you know, the whole I'm circed and I'm ok sorta thing. I'm not sure if I'm answering the question anymore...this has turned into a rant! No I wouldn't EVER circ again. There. Nuff said.

[dnr3301]

This actually gets brought up here quite a bit. I think the basics of it is, you did what you thought was best then, and you are doing what you thought is best now. you know more now, so you'll make a different decision.

This really ought to be a sticky by now...

here are a couple of other threads about the sme topic:

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...light=brothers

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...ht=intact+circ (look esp to post #7, list of other threads)

[channelofpeace]

Hi Jami!

We were going to circ our first, but blessedly, it was a girl! With the second, i did a little research and knew that that was *not* going to happen. I told dh that if he made me do it, i would regret it for the rest of my life. He thought i was being manipulative and melodramatic, but i really meant every word. I just knew that i wouldn't be able to let my son be put through something i believed to be so barbaric and painful. He still doesn't get it. And that bothers me, but i have had to let it go. I plant seeds, but i think it is because if he admitted that circing is wrong, that would lead him to the conclusion that his penis is not what it could be. I hope that one day he'll come around, but sometimes an ultimatum is necessary for the time being.