please pray, light a candle, etc.

[No2Circ]

My dear, sweet sister is due in less than a month. She's still undecided. I've sent her my best info, including telling her about this board. Please now join me in prayer.

[feebeeglee]

I'll pray with you.

[No2Circ]

Thank you so much. Now I need to try to get some sleep! Everyone feel free to keep sending prayers!

[Minky]

I'll pray with you, too.

[Mommiska]

Me, too.

[Quirky]

[Daisyuk]

[My2Matthews]

I've said a prayer, too.

[LeosMama]

My hopes and thoughts are with you and her baby boy, hoping she will choose to recognize it's not her penis and leave his body the way God made it.

[Kundalini-Mama]

BTDT, fortunately my sister left my nephew intact and joined us on this very forum. Lots of to you, its very anxiety producing.

[njeb]

Keep us posted...

[No2Circ]

She's going to be induced Jan. 2 or sooner (because they're afraid the baby isn't growing enough.) He's about 4 pounds now, they estimate, so he'll probably spend some time in the NICU. She said she may not talk to me about her final decision regarding circ. So, I may not be able to post an update about that if she doesn't tell me what she decides. I also told her she could wait 6 months or so and think about it some more. Maybe she'll do that. Thanks for all of your prayers/good wishes.

[Fi.]

Is it IUGR? If so, stay on her. IUGR babies have enough problems and are VERY unstable (ESPECIALLY in a nursing relationship) as is and the smallest thing can really throw them through a loop.

I have an IUGR baby, and I'm really glad she was a girl because at the time I wanted to circumcise and god...I can't imagine that.

[No2Circ]

They haven't officially called it that, as far as I know. They're just concerned because he's "small." How would she know at this point if it is in fact IUGR? She's seeing a high-risk perinatologist (because she's 42), so I'd think they'd be on top of things. I'm SOOO hoping she'll take one look at how beautiful he is and leave him intact. (My STUPID brothers are bugging her to circ him--I think that's a reaction to me, because I'm so loud and proud about my intactivism.)

[Fi.]

I had IUGR diagnosed around 31 or 32 weeks...my daughter was born at 6lbs at 41 weeks and didn't really grow. She'll be 4 in 3 weeks and she's 39 inches tall and 27lbs. She's got some residual problems but nothing that keeps her from being a "normal" person.

But yeah, IUGR is tricky enough without throwing surgery recovery into the mix. It doesn't take much to affect an IUGR baby. A friend of mine accidentally nicked a piece of my daughters skin while doing her nails and she was doing that screamy thing where they don't breathe for at least 20 minutes and she wouldn't eat for hours. She just shook and cried and wimpered and tried to sleep.

http://www.healthsystem.virginia.edu...gnant/iugr.cfm
Some basic info on IUGR. Let me know if you have any specific questions about having an IUGR baby -- mine resulted from having the chicken pox in early pregnancy but lots of things can cause it. Mine was luckily not TOO severe but bad enough I still have to worry about it.

[No2Circ]

Well, the baby/fetus is in less than the 10th percentile now. And she did have some bleeding around the 20th week of her pregnancy, so the problems could be placenta-related. But she has had all kinds of ultrasounds, etc.

I think I'll wait until after he's born to ask her about IUGR, though. I don't want to freak her out at this point.

[channelofpeace]

Her little boy is in my prayers... for the being left intact and the growth probs

[No2Circ]

Thank you so much!!!!!

[No2Circ]

She's going in tonight (right about now?) to get something to soften her cervix and then she'll get pitocin after that. If she's lucky, the baby will weigh five pounds. I'm actually hoping he'll spend a little time in NICU to give her some more time to think about it. It's driving me crazy that I still don't know what her decision is (or even if she's made one..........she decided she didn't want to talk about it anymore, and last I heard, they were undecided.) I'm so sad about the possibility of him being circ'd. I SOOO want to be happy for her!

And my (circ'd) husband JUST DOESN'T UNDERSTAND why this affects me so. That makes me feel lonely. Thank you guys for being here and understanding!


I have such peace that I left my son intact. I just want that for her.

[Frankly Speaking]

Originally Posted by No2Circ

And my (circ'd) husband JUST DOESN'T UNDERSTAND why this affects me so. That makes me feel lonely. Thank you guys for being here and understanding!

I understand that feeling perfectly.



Frank