Oh Mommas, I am just feeling so bad right now. Can anyone shed some light on this situation and help me gain perspective?
I have an almost 8 year old ds. He is gifted and academically many years ahead of children his age. He also has ADHD impulsive, basically no emotional control but none of the hyperactive behaviours often associated with adhd. I am homeschooling him at the moment because he had a lot of problems at school - not enough academic challenge and also the adhd has only been diagnosed in the last 3 months so the symptoms were obviously contributing to the angst felt by all of us before then.
Ds is taking a low dose of medication but he is still very emotional, reactive and just plain hard to get along with. He just cannot tolerate dd 5 at all. Now I know all siblings disagree but this is too much.
The real crux came today when I was looking back at some video we had taken of ds as a baby and toddler. There was absolutely no sign of any of these behaviour problems. He was just gorgeous. How did we get from that to this? I love my ds with all my heart and it hurts me for him to be like this - ungrateful, whining, demanding, negative, nothing is ever good enough. He is fine while everything is going his way, but has a tantrum if he is asked to do something or doesn't get what he wants. he is just not very pleasant to be around. My parents in law came over for tea the other night and i was so embarrassed by ds's behaviour. He complained about the food, refused to sit at the table, demanded they play his game his way, oh even the memory is ugly.
I need some help, I want to enjoy being with my son and for us to all enjoy doing things together. I can't go on like this anymore. What do you think?
I have an almost 8 year old ds. He is gifted and academically many years ahead of children his age. He also has ADHD impulsive, basically no emotional control but none of the hyperactive behaviours often associated with adhd. I am homeschooling him at the moment because he had a lot of problems at school - not enough academic challenge and also the adhd has only been diagnosed in the last 3 months so the symptoms were obviously contributing to the angst felt by all of us before then.
Ds is taking a low dose of medication but he is still very emotional, reactive and just plain hard to get along with. He just cannot tolerate dd 5 at all. Now I know all siblings disagree but this is too much.
The real crux came today when I was looking back at some video we had taken of ds as a baby and toddler. There was absolutely no sign of any of these behaviour problems. He was just gorgeous. How did we get from that to this? I love my ds with all my heart and it hurts me for him to be like this - ungrateful, whining, demanding, negative, nothing is ever good enough. He is fine while everything is going his way, but has a tantrum if he is asked to do something or doesn't get what he wants. he is just not very pleasant to be around. My parents in law came over for tea the other night and i was so embarrassed by ds's behaviour. He complained about the food, refused to sit at the table, demanded they play his game his way, oh even the memory is ugly.
I need some help, I want to enjoy being with my son and for us to all enjoy doing things together. I can't go on like this anymore. What do you think?
mama. I wish I had some answers for you. Hopefully a mama here will shed some light for you.
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