I can't even comment on that other thread.
But i do have opinions on why this was such a hard pill for me to swallow. . .
Submitting means being humble. It is hard to accept that someone else as an equally good or better plan than you were able to come up with. It means not being the star. It means not being the head.
Submitting means acknowledging that God's ultimate plan isn't about being comfortable or in the "best" place. It seems logical that the best choice would be the right one but that isn't always the case for God.
Submitting is sacrificial unconditional love. it is easier to just say that we love this way rather than test it out and face how much we suck at it.
Submitting is a refining process. And it sucks being refined.
Submitting to our husbands is a reflection of how we submit to God and when we face how poorly we submit to our husbands we have to face how poorly we submit to God or anyone else for that matter because we learn what truely joyfuly submiting really means in our everyday life.
Submitting is about more than giving in. It is about giving it over joyfully. it is about giving up control. I think manypeople have self inflated ideas about how well they run things that they truely believe that thier worlds will fall apart if they give it up to someone else. But they are wrong. It would just be different. It might not be how they want it but with the right attitude it can be ust as fulfilling if not more so. but it is still very scary for them to give up that control.
Submitting means having the right attitude and siezing the day. Embracing adventure over comfort and risk over saftey. Although I think we often overestimate how safe we really are.
Submitting means being forced to rest and depend on God entirely rather than ourselves or even our husbands. It is only in him we are ever secure. Even we we are doing perfectly we are only one crisis away from utter dissaster.
Submitting is about becoming a servant and cultivating the Masters heart. it is about being first through being last.
This is not an easy call. It is not for the faint of heart. I am far from perfect in my submissiveness, don't get me wrong. But it is not easy and my attitude and sin tendencies make it far harder than anything my husband could ever require of me. Doing what he asks is the easy part.
it is much easier to say that it doesn't really apply, that the Bible doesn't really say that/mean that than to say "I have sin and rebellion that needs to be delt with. And the first thing I need to acknowledge that I am not all that important here. (the sermon in church today was about how our expendability to the mission is what makes us so indespensible to it. it was completely awsome. and completely butchered in the previous two sentenes
I don't bother arguing about it. God will work in someones heart when He is ready and when they are tender to it. Some will be recieving and some won't.
In the mean time there is a submission revelution and an army of women are being refined for His glory (Oh, have I told you guys about the book "Women Gods Secret Weapon") that will rise up in the end days and crush enemy under our feet (think rematch). And I truely believe that what is being sown in submissive hearts will prepare us to move at our commanders whims in swift and deadly movements. Submissision to our husbands leads to submission to God and the process that goes with it weeds out all of those things that would make us hesitate or rebell once we are called into action. hesitation and rebellion is what loses battles. we will be mean lean fighting machines.
Oh something else I don't know if i mentioned here. My pastor did a wonderful sermon (he realy is a great preacher, one of the most intellegent people I have had the privledge of studying under) on being a godly husband and poitned out the definition of the greek word for "helper". That is the same kind of helper used to describe a mentor, doctor, teacher etc . . . But that such help still can't be forced upon someone, but has to be sought after and recieved. So certainly not painting women as the helper in a "less than" light but also not in a position of control or headship either. I thought that was cool.