what is it about that statment that bothers you? (or maybe it doesn't bother you)
I don't mean I lay there while he does his thing. I mean I don't wait until i am in the mood. If he is in the mood I accomodate. I would expect the same "accomodating" from him. If he isn't sick or injured but just not in the mood, get in the mood already buddy. A girl has needs ya know. Often even if I am not in the mood there are certain things he will do along the way that make me forget I wasn't in the mood to begin with.
Wouldn't have wanted to miss that.
And it isn't just sex. It is a whole atitude of how can I show him he means a lot to me. If he wanted a certain shirt washed for something I would wash it for him. Not tell him "sorry, honey, I am not really in a laundry mod today". if he wanted to go for a walk or out for cofee i would go even if i was not craving coffee. And he does the same for me.
I don't know where people got the idea that you can only have sex if you are absolutely a ball of raging horniness. Sometimes he is hankering for some of that kind of lovin and sometimes more me, if we waited until we were both "in the mood" I doubt we would ever have sex. And sadly that is how some relationships are. and they wonder why they are never in the mood. I wouldn't deny him a kiss or a hug why sex? Its not like it taks all night, its not like I am repulsed by him. Sometimes I am just feeling lazy or distracted. I can get over myself long enough to show my dh some affection. But what if I only did it when I was in the mood. thats sorta selfish. can I not give him 30-60 minutes of my time.
and sex is one of those things. the more you give the more you will be in the mood, the more you want it. Since I decided I was going to have sex wether I wanted it or not I find myself wanting to bless my husband more (even if i could care less about gettin' some, I still want to rock his world most nights, strangely, it brings me great satisfaction to . . um . . . know he has enjoyed the encounter) and find myself much more intrested in being, ahem, blessed back.
I doubt most Christians feel this way and I don't know that the Bible says much about it specifically about sex but it does talk about not being selfish and self seving, not being lazy and only abstaining for a short time by mutual agreement.