Just a question for you "experienced" submitters...
Can you tell me how you encourage your DH's to be the head of the home? DH and I struggle with this. He says he makes decisions and leads all day long at work, and when he gets home he just wants someone else to do it, yet I am trying to submit to him... Is submitting in this case leading?
It doesn't quite seem like that should be the case, but he defers to me in everything related to our child, and food (usually), and almost always chooses things because he *thinks* I'll choose it (or because I mention it). He is a very caring, sensitive husband, and I am very lucky to be his wife, but I struggle with having to take the lead when I'd rather play the supporting role.
Just recently, he actually sought out two different churches for us to try out (the one we have been attending is not working for us, mainly due to child care issues--as in sometimes they just don't have any, and on every invitation we get it says, "Make other arrangements for your children," or "Children are welcome, but no childcare will be provided." It's difficult to pay attention and be ministered to when you have a sixteen-month old screaming and climbing and eating and....on you during service or a bible study.). I was so happy! We went to one of them last week, and I can't get him to tell me whether or not he liked it and wants to go again, or if he hated it.
It's hard to say all of this, because it seems like I shouldn't fault him for trying to do things that please me, KWIM?
But I feel like I have very few things I can do to please him, because he just says he wants me to be happy. (What a sweetie
What does submission look like in real life in your home? Maybe some random daily examples will help me figure this out.