6yo dd and behavior problem??

[mom2littlebean]

My 6 year old dd has always had a close relationship with her Daddy and she is definitely Daddy's girl. This is wonderful and I love the interaction between the two of them.

My question is her relating to other men in our life. She has been brought up around her uncles who have always rough housed and this has been the main way she interacts with them.She thinks nothing of climbing all over them and getting in their faces, etc. It has been expected and understood by the uncles that this is the way she gets their attention.Some times a little too roughly. It was all good as a toddler but now as she grows older she uses this approach to get attention from and to interact with other men who are non family members.

My dh thinks it is all good and does not see a problem. I just feel that at some point she needs to grow beyond this approach and perhaps learn new boundaries especially with men who have not known her since toddlerhood.

At what point is this behavior inappropriate?

am I over reacting?

Does she need to grow into a new way of relating on her own or is should I be prompting change?

Thanks for your help

[kewb]

I think you may be over-reacting a little bit, however, I see nothing wrong with assisting your daughter to see new ways of interacting. I would not make her feel ashamed about her behavior or tell her she can no longer do what she is doing. To me it is more along the lines of drawing the boundries of what is acceptable with family members vs. new people/friends in your life as she grows up.

[sphinx]

my dd is like this too; it's as if she craves male energy and needs to get a big dose of rough play whenever any man is around. I think it's age-appropriate. And as long as the men feel it's alright, why should she change? I think it sounds like she has a great base for closeness with her uncles that could last a lifetime! Maybe you could begin to very lightly introduce the idea that some men, maybe new men she meets, aren't necessarily going to want that same kind of interaction, but I wouldn't think that she's too old to continue this with her uncles as of now. She may well acquire a sense of modesty starting at 8-9-10 which will change the situation and type of interaction naturally as she matures. I wouldn't worry about it.

[mom2littlebean]

Thanks for the replies.

I agree that she does have a close relationship with her uncles and daddy and I don't want to change that. Your words have shed some new light on the situation and I will address her in regards to manners and approaching other men.

Thanks again Mamma's!