Anyone a little nervous?

[rebeccalizzie]

I know this is silly...we were trying for this baby! But every once in a while I sit here and think "what the heck did we just do???" I have a terrific marriage, a wonderful DD, and I make enough money at my job that we can have a lot of "extras". I even can go out with friends when I want to. Now we're going to have a baby. Everyone says a baby is really hard on your marriage the first year or so (DH and I met when DD was 2, so we've never had a baby around together), I'm going to be staying home, I'm going to be constantly attached to the little one for at least a year while nursing, and I'm supposed to hs DD! We aren't going to have much extra money, and I'm going to have very little extra time. And DH works a lot of crazy hours, so most of this is going to be on me.

: this is a little scary...so many changes. Good changes...but BIG ONES!

[veganf]

money

I worked until 3 days before my due date with babe #1, and I made sure to buy everything I'd need for the first year or two while I still had my own income. I sure do miss it now, but that's about the only thing I miss!
I'm sure you'll figure things out as it happens.

- krista

[peilover010202]

rebeccalizzie - just wanted to tell you that it is hard with a new baby in the house, but you said you have a good marriage - so you will find that you will work together as a team to make things easier!

My dh worked crazy hours when ds was born, and it wasn't easy. I was definitely ready for a break and a warm meal when dh got home from work, that 30 minutes or so really kept me sane Just remember that you need to take care of yourself too!

And you will find a routine that works for you, dd, and the babe - so that you can get everything done!

But, don't worry - I think many of us wonder how we'll manage. I've thought about it too. My ds will be 3 when the baby is born, still such a baby. And, it makes me a little sad that I won't be able to devote all my time to him - but dh and I have already talked and we're planning on once a month taking ds out on his own with just daddy or just mommy for some Owen time!

[AmieV]

LOLOLOL...YES!!

Considering my DD will be 18-19 months old when this baby arrives, I'm terrified. BUT, I also know that it was really, really hard when she was born and it took some major adjustment and then it just became normal. So I'm assuming the same thing will happen now. Yes, it will be difficult and exhausting, but I'm going into it this time with a much higher threshold for sleep deprivation.

Plus, our lifestyle has already adapted to having a baby. We don't go out much, our lives revolve around our daughter's needs, so what's one more in the mix? I have heard a lot of people say the adjustment from 1 to 2 is much easier than from 0-1. Because you already know a little bit what to expect.

BUT, it's also knowing what to expect that terrifies me! I'm also scared of having some nightmare colicky newborn because DD was just a gem. She actually slept better up until about 4 months than she does now.

Just so you know you're not alone. As those two lines came up one of my first thoughts was "holy crap! What have we done!?"

[Henry's_Mamma]

Everyday, as I look at ds and realize what a baby he still is, and how much he still needs me, I think I've done a terrible thing to him. But then I realize how much of a gift a sibling is (and will be, even if not at first), so I suck it up.

Dh is moving into a really difficult time in his career for the next couple of years (he's approaching partnership at his law firm, which is a lot of work and sucking up to people), so I know a lot of this will fall on me. But I do think it is important to make time for each other, and for each kid with each parent. Dh takes ds to Music Together class every week, and I think after the baby comes and I've had a chance to freeze some milk, we'll start alternating weeks so that ds and dc2 each get some one on one time with each of us a few times a month.