Are We There Yet? - Page 2

[RedOakMomma]

Originally Posted by Ell-Bell

I could get really annoying if I start posting here as much as I am inclined to!

GO FOR IT!

corhorvath~ Anything you need...ANYTHING...you just let me know.

[allismom]

Another thing that's made me slower to bond with this baby is the fact that I want another girl sooooooooo bad. All 3 of us do. I really need to come up with a way to mentally prepare for the fact that it could be a boy.

It seems every playgroup or function or park I go to I just see these little boys acting up so badly, being rough, hurting my Alli.......and I just think "Oh PLEASE let this be a girl". I know I need to stop thinking that way but I am not sure how.

Lots of people tell me about 'their sweet boys' and that they are not all rough and naughty.......is there anybody that felt like me and got a boy and tell me about your experience of instant bonding and love??????

[AppleCrisp]

Originally Posted by allismom

Another thing that's made me slower to bond with this baby is the fact that I want another girl sooooooooo bad. All 3 of us do. I really need to come up with a way to mentally prepare for the fact that it could be a boy.

Lots of people tell me about 'their sweet boys' and that they are not all rough and naughty.......is there anybody that felt like me and got a boy and tell me about your experience of instant bonding and love??????

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We talked about this on another thread awhile ago... I feel the same way. I'm sure I will love him just the same, but still, I see the adorable little girl outfits (I'm sorry, so much cuter than blue with stupid baseballs on them or teddy bears) and I think I'll never get to buy them....and the baby book, I know he won't look at it the same way a girl would later on, and I know he won't be half as interested in me recording the pregnancy the way a girl would be interested in it, years from now. I know lots of people who have sweet, gentle, quiet little boys. I think all kids go through that phase where they're hard to control and very active. But one thing 100% of experienced parents have told me is that the minute you see that baby, you will love it no matter what, and I'm sure that will be the case. My baby has been very, very quiet so far - hardly any kicking at all, so I know what you mean about that bonding feeling.

[Ell-Bell]

Well, I'm the opposite, I am hoping for a boy.

But, I have a feeling it's a girl. I'm ok with that, I don't have a HUGE preference- but I'd rather have an energetic boy than... well, ME at age 13! What would I do if I got my niece, who (despite every effort to raise her in a non gender-role specific home) only wants to wear her frilly pink princess dress and is always pointing out "pretty" people? OK, I totally ADORE my niece, she's hilarious and I am sure it's just a phase... but the materialism and pettiness of girls gets to me! I would probably "try" to raise a tomboy... and inevitably would end up with a daughter who is captain of the cheerleading squad. That desire to be "cool" and popular seems so overwhelming in girls.

Now, I know I will absolutely be thrilled with whatever we get. In fact, I'm so SURE it's a girl, that I'm becoming excited about it in many other ways. But secretly I'm hoping for a boy.

[Metasequoia]

I had the same fears, we have two girls whom I adore & I kind of assumed that this babe was a girl as well. During our u/s at 20 wks, we immediately saw a penis & my heart just sank. Then I felt guilty for feeling that way, which made it even worse! I began to feel like I was so lucky to still have this baby with me, after hemmorhaging at 12.5 wks & being so sure during the bleeding that I had lost the baby & then being so utterly shocked when I saw the bouncing baby during a u/s, so ecstatic & amazed that it was alive!

We belong to an incredible group called Families for Natural Living & there are so many sweet, gentle little boys, that that is what made me realize, "hey, I could absolutely LOVE a little baby boy!!" Now I'm all sappy about it & feel like I actually want this boy over another girl.

For me, I think that it was best that I found out in the middle of the pg, that way I have time to accept & realize my feelings rather than having to deal with them while simultaneously dealing with the post-partum hormones.

[Tine]

Originally Posted by allismom

Another thing that's made me slower to bond with this baby is the fact that I want another girl sooooooooo bad. All 3 of us do. I really need to come up with a way to mentally prepare for the fact that it could be a boy.

It seems every playgroup or function or park I go to I just see these little boys acting up so badly, being rough, hurting my Alli.......and I just think "Oh PLEASE let this be a girl". I know I need to stop thinking that way but I am not sure how.

Lots of people tell me about 'their sweet boys' and that they are not all rough and naughty.......is there anybody that felt like me and got a boy and tell me about your experience of instant bonding and love??????

Right here! When PG w/ DS, DH and I really, really wanted a girl and were convinced we would have one. One of the reasons we found out the sex at 20 weeks was to give ourselves time to adjust to the idea of having a boy if nec. For us, it was a smart move. We had many weeks to start calling DS by his name and really fall in love with the idea of having a boy. And it's true about adoring the child you get...now I can't imagine having had a DD instead of DS.

DS is (I think) a wonderful combination of things that are stereotypically masculine and feminine. Yes, he's big and loud and rambunctious, and he's smitten with trains and digging in the dirt and knocking down his Lincoln Log towers. But he's got a really sweet side, too. He loves snuggling on the couch with all his "friends" (dolls and stuffed animals) just as much as playing with trains. He doles out kisses like they're going out of style. He's very conversational and interested in other people's feelings; one of his most oft-used sentences is "So how ya doin', Mommy?" His favorite article of clothing is his pair of pink house slippers.

Now I know: a little boy can be a really groovy addition to a household!

[Jennifer in LR]

Hi

I am new to this group, and found this section on due dates. I am also due in March 2006 with my second baby. I am having a homebirth with this one. Have all of you with previous babies had homebirths before? This is my first experience with a midwife and homebirth. My first was a terrible hospital/OB delivery. I am really looking in to all the options i didn't realize i had with my first baby. I am beginning Bradley classes 01/06. I just wanted to say Hi. And see if there were any experienced wise mammas out here.

[Jennifer in LR]

baby boy or girl

I think i am the exact opposite. I have a boy that i adore. He is my little man. I have found out that we are getting a girl this time and i secretly hope that the ultrasound isn't right. And that it is a boy anyway. I like being the only girl in the house. I also have 2 sisters so i know what teen years for a girl look like. I have seen how much a sweet little girl can break a momma's heart when they get to be a teen. A boy seems to always love his momma but i think a girl will rebel against her mom eventually. I know that i will love the baby no matter what. I just want to be as excited as i was with my first.

[Tine]

Originally Posted by Jennifer in LR

I am new to this group, and found this section on due dates. I am also due in March 2006 with my second baby. I am having a homebirth with this one. Have all of you with previous babies had homebirths before? This is my first experience with a midwife and homebirth. My first was a terrible hospital/OB delivery. I am really looking in to all the options i didn't realize i had with my first baby. I am beginning Bradley classes 01/06. I just wanted to say Hi. And see if there were any experienced wise mammas out here.

Hello and welcome!

My DS was born in a hospital w/ a midwife. An OK birth IMO, but I'm betting my upcoming homebirth will be MUCH better.