I'm obviously late to this thread...but I wanted to put in my opinion...
If I hadn't had MamaPear
to call when I was being taken for a section for my premature daughter due to HELLP (want more info on what happened or why see my birth story - http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=630328
) I never would have remembered some of the things to say or do so that I could come a little closer to my desired birth (
as if there was much left at that point!)IF
I have another child, I will be trying for a VBAC. I delivered "normally" with my son after all, so I know that I can do it...it will all depend on how sick I get.
I also know that I won't be nearly so niave in writing my birth plan next time...I'll include what I want for a section just in case...and this time I want to know things about breastfeeding with pain meds, cosleeping, slinging post section, explaining a section to a sibling who was prepared for a regular birth and being present, etc.
...but I sincerely hope that I will have one place I can ask those questions of women who will understand WHY I would consider cosleeping, slinging, or breastfeeding, why I wouldn't be "thrilled" to escape labor and have a "clean" "easy" section, or who would understand why I would have EVER considered letting my son be present for the birth of his sibling!
No mainstream parenting board is going to have those answers. Think for a moment please of WHERE I might find a board filled with people who could understand those types of concerns - regardless of the type of birth (home, UC, hospital, surgical) - and then please explain to me again why MDC is an improper place for a surgical birth forum...
A forum is, after all, merely one central location with posts asking those very questions. I know of no other place I could ask those questions and NOT be ridiculed. Imagine how long and convoluted a single thread that covered all those topics (and more) would be...(or simply go SEE the csection support thread ugh)
...Then maybe you can find some compassion for those moms who have lost their dream births and are now faced with finding a way to salvage what they can from a surgical birth.